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    What precautions are you taking against the coronavirus in your poly networks?

    LaMeduse - I understand how you feel. I'm having the same anxiety, and feeling a bit selfish for doing so, but can't help it. I live on my own, and can't help but feel if we have restrictions on movement, i might want to make sure i'm confined with other folks. i live in the same city as one...
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    What precautions are you taking against the coronavirus in your poly networks?

    We're trying to be chilled about it. We're more worried about what impact it's going to have on our lives, somewhat selfishly. I live on my own, and am thinking i'm going to be very bored if we're all asked to self-isolate. but if that's the case, i'll have to make a decision in advance about...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    Hi all, just wanted to give thanks for the advice here again. On Friday my two partners met each other and I found it much easier to negotiate second time round. Everyone got on, and it’s a really great feeling knowing that everyone knows everyone. I have a lot of squoosh feeling at the moment...
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    definitions of polyamory

    Can I butt in? I like this question - is polyamory a nature state, or orientation, or a choice. One of my partners and I talk about it often. I was monogamous for a long time...but at various points I've been attracted to other people, but didn't act on it (until towards the end of my mono...
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    How do I even start to explain??

    Big hugs, JoA. I think Philip Schofield's coming out has been revelatory for lots of people, as far as i can see. I've been through a similar, if shorter, journey myself over the last year. It was easier for me because i wasn't married, and had no children...but I cannot tell you how much...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    Indeed. Rob has realised with some pleasure that it means he can organise a big party for his birthday and not have to worry about which one of us he invites. though, i think i would like to meet her a couple of times again before that. spending a whole evening together is a bit different...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    Meeting was a good thing, but I don’t feel a need to be friends with her/arrange to meet up specifically. But I think it opens possibilities for organising time maybe. I am broadly friends with my other metamour, but we were friends before and live in the same city, so it feels different. I...
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    Solo Poly. How do you do it?

    I'm pretty new to poly relationships, but i think i would broadly identify myself, and both what i'm in and what i would like in the future, as solo. I have two partners, one (Matt) which is a little more casual than the other (Rob). Matt has a primary relationship, and would see himself as...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    Thanks for the advice everyone. It was fine. Yasmin is lovely (though she is ridiculously cool). we went an had lunch, and it was just surprisingly normal. tiny twinge of jealousy because she ended up sitting next to Rob, so was able to be tactile, but was really tiny. I reminded myself...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    Meeting is tomorrow afternoon...thanks for the advice all, will let you know how it goes :-)
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    so, we talked about this last night, and I decided i think i might find it more intimidating meeting her on my own. i get a bit nervous and socially awkward sometimes. so rob is going to meet her off the train on his own, and then we will just hang out as friends i think - so all of us just be...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    This coming Saturday (the 1st). Sorry! I saw Rob this weekend - it was the first time we've done a full Friday to Monday and it was bliss :) - and we talked about Yasmin a bit and through my niggles, and I've decided that it would be better to meet her than not. So we're going to have coffee...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    thanks guys. Pinkpig - yeah, that was also my thinking - maybe she will feel less intimidating if i meet her, in the same way that Masha is. there, i can see what we are each able to give Matt...so maybe i'll see that too if i meet Yasmin. Maybe i won't. I think i need to see how i...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    just to add, in case it's relevant, the 'type' of meet up would be that I could stay over on the Friday night - she gets in on the saturday morning, and we could have a coffee or something. Not anything more than that...
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    Meeting metamours...some advice?

    So, I know the primary partner of one of my partners - we were all friends beforehand, and I don't find it difficult at all. It's somewhere on a FWB type arrangement that I have with him (Matt), and it's not super emotionally invested - we were friends before, we're friends still - the emotions...
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