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We've had sex right after having sex with another swinging couple, but we usually end up waiting a couple days after one of us has played seperately. I don't think she would mind, but I usually feel a bit jealous when she is with someone else and I tend to feel a bit distant afterwards. I don't...

My wife and I tried swinging first when we initially opened up our marriage and started exploring non-monogamy. We had a hard time finding suitable couples. Either the attraction wasn't there, or they just weren't comfortable with the whole thing. We were pretty comfortable with it, but were...

Interesting subject. When and how to come out as poly to friends and coworkers is something that I'm wondering about too. How do you bring the subject of open marriages up? I have a couple women friends with whom I'd like to tell about my open relationship. I'd ask them out, but I wouldn't want...

I usually associate "lifestyle" with swinging. The swingers seem to have claimed that word for themselves. I find swinging and poly to be very different forms of the same thing, non-manogomy. Swingers seem to have many rules such as, same room only, soft swap only. No playing on the first date...

Thanks for the tips. I'll have to try being less secretive about the arrangement my wife and I have. My biggest fear is that when people find out about our openess, I'll be somewhat embarrassed by the fact that my wife finds a lot more partners than I do. It sounds great on paper, but in...

Opening Up - Who Can You Tell? Friends, Family and Coworkers? A little background: My wife and I opened our marriage up about a year and a half ago. We started by getting involved in the swinging community and by giving each other "hall passes". We have since shifted away from trying to meet...

We've run into the same thing. I think every swinging and polyamorous couple experiences this. If not, then my question is, dude what's your secret? It is very easy for my wife to met men since there is so many out there looking for casual relationships and one night stands. As for me, I've had...

Hi all, My wife and I have been married for 15 years and have been exploring different arrangements for the last year and a half. We started out with swinging, but have gradually shifted to polyamory as we were willing to play together or alone.