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Thanks Magdlyn I feel like we did an OK job at talking out a lot of it. They’re aware of my concerns and have been since before we started, which is probably why we continued into this. I guess the feelings got stronger as reality set in, but I’m figuring it out. I know in my heart or hearts...

Yes, and I’m feeling like that’s becoming less of an issue, if that did happen. It was my expectation/where I was comfortable at when we started these discussions, and we had agreed to that, at the time, as our goal. But clearly this is going to evolve and grow on its own. I’m breaking past...

Hi ktd26417, Thanks for the kind words. Yeah, in the heat of the moment I got super freaked out, because it wasn’t starting the way I'd planned it mentally. But group activity, at this point, is our mutual goal, and if it changes we will have that discussion. I think we’re all in a good...

Magdlyn, Thank you again for the guidance and references. I will be definitely checking them out. I think while getting our feet wet into this we definitely have more to figure out. I have that picture in my head of what I thought this would or will be like, but being here and going forward...

No you’re perfectly fine. It also doesn’t help I wrote that initial post at a moment of great insecurity seeking some validation for my thoughts and feelings at that hot second. I have psychological issues from my time. I spent most of it pulling double duty as a volunteer firefighter, and...

I think we’re working on defining that at this point. I think she saw it as being purely mechanical, but there has to be a relationship component here. I would say we both love our friend to a very significant level. All parties are heterosexual, so my love for him is at point where I don’t...

Kynde, Thank you for the kind words. Yesterday was a bit of an emotional blur and rollercoaster for myself, and for them too I’m sure. Which honestly is something before we started down this path is something I would’ve probably kept well bottled up and stifled. It doesn’t help that I’m now a...

Hi, I’m a 38 M in a long term relationship with my 39 F wife, 14 years married and a total of over 20 together. We have also only been with each other, neither of us having had another partner before. I have ED issues which we are working on having addressed, but after candid conversations with...