Recent content by Zeggplant

Hi Shaya ! When I say 'flirt' it's really just a game, with people who know me, and with no consequences. I'd say I enjoy playing a 'flirty role', say bold things while looking straight into someone's eyes. In my way of seeing it, it's a game that's not supposed to create any bond between me...

That's easier said than done, but I hope with time and patience (...and courage) I'll be able to show my true self to the people that matter to me :)

Here are some detailed thoughts I've had. I hope you'll react on them, it really helps me see clearer ! What I want in the future (and what I hope I can construct with Be) : - I want to be able to talk to my partner about my crushes when one comes. It doesn't have to evolve into a real...

I have made some progress in my thinking, so I thought I might as well keep you updated. This may or may not be connected to the fact that I can't focus on my reading right now and that I am obsessed with my new thoughts... ^_^ A lot happened since the last time I posted. Regarding my physical...

I've finally started feeling better...! Hello everyone! I think I have made some great improvements since I last posted. I think my brain mixed everything I've been told, from this forum, my therapist, my friends... And I had an 'eurêka' moment two days ago. I haven't had the opportunity to...

I agree with you in a way, and I have to say the only reason I've been depressed and anxious recently is that I can't talk for now, I can't be myself, because I fear I could potentially destroy my relationship (and all that revolve around it, our families going well together, my young siblings...

I also really like this idea, especially since we usually don't talk about serious things wen we are together. We usually initiate discussions with others (friends, family) and then, when we're just the two of us, we talk about it a bit more. I started volunteering recently and as we were having...

Answer to Shaya Answer to Shaya: You wrote an accurate analysis of Be. He's a giver - we both are actually. He does put everyone's needs before his own. He's loved for his dedication. Whenever we visit friends or family, he does the dishes, play with kids, fires the barbecue... He really went...

Answer to GalaGirl I've been away for a while, I wasn't feeling well. I started a draft of my answers but had to rewrite some parts, so sorry in advance if it's not enjoyable to read :( First, my answer to GalaGirl : Answer to GalaGirl : GalaGirl, I wish I could tell you you got it all wrong...

Hi GalaGirl, I quoted my mom because I thought about what she said at that time when I hoped for reassurance and got showered with morale rules. It made me realize how influenced I am, and how it severed my self esteem regarding matters like polyamory (and others too but that's not the...

I read the article you liked here, kdt26417, and I have to say I agree on most of what it says. I've had issues with jealousy earlier in my life, as I have been with a man who had a unhealthy relationship with his ex (always responding to her texts/calls before mine, and so on). I was afraid my...

Woah, thank you all for your answers and the insights you gave me. I feel overwhelmed, I've opened a door that I have no idea how to go through... So I gues I'll start by simply taking a peek first. I'll answer to each of you, for you all really helped. I'll take my time in that too, though :o...

IV) Am I poly? [What brings me back here] What happened with Sleepwalker strengthened my relationship with Be. We grew closer, became more comfortable and safe with each other. Sleepwalker and I still work on our writing project, we expect it to be ready for September. Last January, some...

III) Polyamory.com [what brought me here] I came to this forum last November as I was struggling with feelings I had for another man. It begun last August, and after a roller-coaster of emotions and events I'd say my feelings settled down on March. For eight months I kept those feelings secret...

II) Who is Be [what matters] My current boyfriend, Be, is 26. We met 4 and a half years ago, and at the end of the month we'll celebrate our 4th year together. Be has a very complicated past, and I don't know a whole lot of it. What I know is that his parents had divorced early and that his...