Recent content by Zenferno

Yul, I mean no offense, but I get the feeling from your sentence structure that English may not be your first language. If so that would probably explain some of the confusion here.

My story is eerily similar, but only 5 years of marriage and I had always thought the deficiency lie with me, not my spouse. When I approached my Paramour I was pretty straight forward. I asked her if she'd like to date and when she asked about my being married I gave her a brief sum up of poly...

NRE definitely gave me "tunnel vision" when I started getting serious with Paramour and it started to hurt my marriage. I've learned to reinvest NRE into my relationship with my wife and she loves it! You could try it while you're still in the fantasy stage and see how it pans out for you.

I wouldn't mix with other service members who are at the same installation, and never ever talk about your personal life at work to anyone. Everyone that knows is a potential point of failure.

I'm going to second this. I fantasize like the best of'em but you've got a lot of variables here that don't seem to stack well. I wish you the best of luck though.

Thanks for the nudge :) . I called her and said basically what I said here. We ended up talking for over 6 hours. We started making plans for her to visit and that helped a lot. After I posted this topic I realized how trivial it was compared to most of the other threads here. Thanks for...

I apologize for being vague. I'm having a hard time phrasing the problem myself. When we started spending time together it was like reuniting with an old friend. We were finishing each other's sentences, making each other cry with laughter, the works. We even share a lot of strange quirks like...

I think I have a problem. I'm in my first poly-ish relationship (We've exchanged like-likes, very adult of us). We spent several weeks together and things were absolutely amazing, but we've been long distance for a week and now things seem to be unraveling nearly as quickly as they came...

Why can't you have your cake and eat it too? Life is much, much too short not to live it. I would say if you found yourself in love with two people at the same time, that's polyamory. If you try to keep that part of yourself under wraps it'll just spring up again as unexpected as the first time.

Those awesome feelings are NRE. The best advice I've seen on here is to reinvest your NRE into your other relationship. It's helped me immensely. Hope that's what you were looking for.

That's the same as you not trusting him for not more clearly defining his boundaries. I think its unreasonable to lose trust without deceit.

Hi. I'm currently living in the UK. I'm married to a mono who found out about a recent indiscretion (for which I'm deeply repentant) and that led to a very, very long talk. I'm now openly poly and we're working through what that means for us. I look forward to contributing to the community.

I'm new to all this (first post and all) but if you didn't lie than how was his trust violated?