Recent content by ZeroDrakken

When our unicorn left us, I think it hurt more than any other breakup I'd ever had. Our situation was a little different. She left because she was afraid her presence was going to drive my wife and mr apart (despite the fact that it was a drama-free relationship, and I'm pretty sure we were...

I'm familiar with a lot of those (and I too am loathe to actually use them) but the DH was a new one for me. Thanks for the update.

I've seen the term used alot... but what exactly does "DH" stand for? Is it (as I keep imagining) imported and ironically repurposed baseball slang, or is it something else entirely?

Yeah, OKCupid seems ok, but my geographic location is definitely causing me issues for anyone even sorta nearby. Also, it requires me making the first move (still), of which I am historically terrible at. Still, the fact that I even have a profile is a leaps-and-bounds improvement over where I...

Ok, so I'm looking at OkCupid to see if there's anything or anyone of interest there. Some of you sound like you've got experience with it - any recommendations on how to frame my profile so that I'm not surprising anybody? I see that you can mark yourself married and still mark it that you're...

I haven't really looked into online dating much, but mainly because I haven't been "actively" looking to date until now. It's something I'd certainly consider, though. I still would like another unicorn situation. What can I say? I'm a fan of one-stop shopping. But I understand how unrealistic...

To clarify, Mera is not my wife. Here are the four characters in my life... Me - Me, straight male poly an in open relationship, now married Wife - Bi female poly in an open relationship, now married (to me) The Unicorn - Bi female poly formerly in a triad with my wife and me, left us because...

The problem is that Mera, I suspect, is still a little hung up on me from our not-quite-a-relationship years ago. She still sees me with somewhat rose-tinted glasses, and when I talk to her about my problems, she dismisses them, saying that I'm awesome and don't actually need any help. Like the...

Being currently stuck in mid-rural Ohio, I feel your pain. We've given up entirely on meeting anyone locally and have started looking at cities nearby to see if we can find anybody we mesh with. Good luck!

You're completely right about the "course on flirting and innuendo" - these used to come easily to me, but for a long time it's like that part of my brain had just gone dormant. And now that I'm actively trying to use it again, the rust in the gears is making me feel even more socially uneasy...

The problem is that I don't actually have those past relationships. I've always identified as poly (or at least having the capacity to be) but have been strictly mono (though not for trying). Aside from the brief period of time where we had a "unicorn" (as you folks have dubbed them) pass...

The only thing I'm curious is if she does this textbombing thing when you AREN'T alone too. It may be that she's just a constant mindless communicator and can't stand not to share her thoughts and feelings - interrupting your special time is not cool, but if she's also doing it when he's at...

Yeah, I probably coulda used the term "man whore" so much more effectively here, but then I'd lose the parallel I was attempting to draw through minimal alliteration.

I'm fairly new to these forums. I've been reading around, and I've seen some of these questions fielded, but nothing that completely matches what I'm going through, so if you don't mind a well-written and dramatic tale of love and woe, here you go... Neither my wife nor I really ever dated...

We're in the same boat, sorta... we've always been open, but after we got married - and then had a kid - it's made getting out and meeting people willing to get involved with either of us a lot harder. I still regularly attend scifi/fantasy conventions - because I'm an artist and aspiring...