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If you're ultimately looking into disentanglement, but also want to co-parent and enjoy spending time together, etc. If the finances support it, would it ever make sense to live in a duplex where you each lived in a different side? Or live in houses next door to each other or down the street...

My suggestion, since you're still figuring out the emotional entanglement part and not sure if you should hang onto the glimmer or not, is maybe to not make a decision about that just yet. Instead, focus on the other aspects of disentangling. Does your wife work? Figure out how you're both...

I don't know what your budget is, or if the atmosphere is for you at all, but Original Resorts is a company that has 3 resorts in Cancun called Desire that while most of the time are couples only, they do usually have 2 months out of the year where they allow a 3rd. Fair warning, 1 of the...

Agree with what others have said here. You've clearly already checked out, so check out. If now is a bad time for you financially to do that, then maybe now is the time to mentally do that. Spend the next few months until you get your license and a new job or whatever basically living like...

So glad that actually worked out! Sounds like even though he was saying that he didn't think he was capable of the feelings that you wanted, it turns out that it really is just that he doesn't really express his feelings the same way. Honestly, sometimes understanding that difference and then...

I 100% agree that ultimately, if you can't find a way to feel good about the relationship as it is, then that means you need to make a hard decision about what feels right to you. My comments are definitely not intended to tell you that YOU are definitely the one that needs to do all the work...

So in a previous post you said the following: "Whiskers and I talked again. Here are some bullets of what was said: 1. He doesn’t have any problems with our relationship and so he hasn’t brought anything to me to be concerned about, but he knows that he could if he needed to. 2. His lack of...

Yeah, I don't necessarily think that you feeling anxiety over him not feeling as strongly for you as you feel for him is *wrong*. I just think it's worth asking the question.... is that anxiety something that you actually WANT to work on and try to overcome, or do you ultimately think that it's...

The fact that he's sad that he's hurting your feelings and wants to be around you, to me indicates that he IS into you and he DOES care about you. I think fundamentally the difference is, do you need to have relationships with people who express their emotions the same way that you do. If he's...

Does he not talk to you about ANYTHING emotional? Nothing that he's clearly excited about? Really happy about? Etc.? I guess I'm wondering if him not being open emotionally is about ALL emotions and he's a bit more "robotic" (I don't mean that in a negative way, I myself am jokingly called a...

Sorry, but I call bullshit on the whole concept of cheating being ok or a better option and "protecting the family." People say that because they're making the assumption that at least with cheating something is hidden and the person being cheated on can just live in denial. And maybe they...

So your wife is actually in a relationship with a cheater? Am I understanding that correctly? If that's the case, no wonder you have issues. For me, that is very much problematic because I see the people that my partners are willing to date as a reflection of themselves. So if my partner is...

Did the final paperwork at least say he would get the 6 weeks of severance and not "up to" that amount? Cause that seems shady AF. Also, 1 week per year of employment is pretty standard.

I think you probably need to have a conversation with each of them about what it means if they ask you to watch a show with them. Does that mean that they expect you to "save it" for them like you're suspecting? Or do they not have a strong preference for that? Maybe one of them doesn't care...

It sounds like you're trying to justify settling for someone that you know isn't a good person to date just because you feel like meeting people is hard. If the only good reason to pursue someone is "I haven't found anything better so far" then I'd call that not enough reason to waste your time...

To clarify.... you and your boyfriend are now monogamous and have agreed to that? If that's the case, then can't you both just agree to delete the apps on your phones and be done with it? If you haven't agreed to monogamy, it certainly sounds like you want that and should consider asking for...

I just wanted to say that I so very much know how this feels. And that while the hurt may last a long time, you will reach a point where you feel ready to date again. I did the same thing after my 2+ year relationship ended because of a meta ultimatum. I hurt for months. And when I attempted to...

Just a side observation.... this guy is still in your apartment? Why are you letting him live there and going no contact with him and basically giving him your apartment? Are you still paying for it? Is your name on the lease so that you're financially responsible? If so, why not just go...

I have to say that I'm also finding it VERY difficult to believe that she stopped talking to him 2 years ago and he hasn't reached out either, and he's now suddenly asking you for a poly relationship so that he can be with her. If that were actually the case, he would have no idea if she would...

I agree with Magdlyn. Be a shoulder for your partner to cry on if that's what she needs. Give her hugs and cuddles, or space, or whatever will help her that ISN'T just listening to a lot of venting. A little is probably ok, but personally I find that it can be damaging long term to have too...