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I think that's the sort of thing that can be overcome though. I quick follow-up convo where you say, "hey, I notice that you hesitated the other night when I said you were perfect, and I'd like to clarify what I meant." but then also use that as an opportunity to describe how you talk to...

Ugh, gross. As far as I'm concerned your husband violated your privacy. Being a spouse does NOT entitle you to snoop in someone else's phone or bag. Those are still your personal belongings. I'd be putting a new password on my phone so that no snooping could be done, and also setting up...

You do NOT have to live with someone for them to be part of your polycule. Whether she's your partner or not. I think that for your own sanity, you need to tell everyone to slow down and stop assuming that you all will live together. You may eventually get to a point where you want to do...

Good for you not letting your life totally stop due to the other things going on with Ponytail. Not that it's horrible to take breaks from things to process lots of emotions.... but at the end of the day, you have decided to be polyamorous. So if that is important to you, then you need to be...

Ah crap. I don't even know who the mods are on this page, but if one of them sees this, could they please fix the name slip in my last post?

Oh man, NRE is so much a thing, y'all. For real. I love it. So how was the date and the guys meeting, you ask? Fabulous! Echo came over around 8:45 on Tues. I know, kinda late to start a date, but he wanted to help get his kids to bed, so I was ok with a shorter date night, especially...

Hi, I just saw your message. Sadly I don't really have any suggestions for great reading materials. If anything just general books on processing grief, as well as books on processing the end of relationships are a good start. If you read blogs much, there's a blog called poly.land that is...

So my understanding is that the average is 8 months. But my last HPV test before this one was 2 years ago since they just do it with a pap smear and I didn't have 1 of those last year. Seems like I should have since I thought the guidance was every year after 30. But maybe that changed. Either...

Know what's super fun? Deciding that after 6 months of a broken heart you're finally feeling ready to date again, and then as you're having some great texting with 2 potential dates, you get your regular check up done and the ob-gyn lets you know that, SURPRISE! Your HPV test came back...

I 100% agree with Lunabunny, but also am very much on board with the posts from the others, and also especially Dagferi. As you noted in your own blog, you can't seem to stop dating and have a love/hate relationship with it. It might be the relative new-ness that you feel around dating. That...

I have 2 thoughts/suggestions on this that are just based on my own experiences. I'm the female side of this exact same situation in a relationship except my partner and I are poly. But my male partner definitely still experiences and feels some pretty big feelings of insecurity and loss when...

As someone who does both poly and D/s, and also runs a discussion group on the topic, I can assure you that it is *possible* for a DD to have more than 1 lg. Does that mean it works for you? not necessarily. But the answer isn't because that dynamic just isn't possible. It's not about that...

Work is SOOOOO busy right now with it being the end of the year. And on top of that, I'm nervous because I'm taking over a new program and leaving my old one, so I'll have a learning curve of taking on a different assignment and doing a type of contracting I have less experience with. But this...

Thanks! I always appreciate hearing that my blog is useful for others and not just me. I love hearing or reading about the poly lives of others and how different and varied they can be, so it's always great to know I can be a part of that!

There's a big difference between someone understanding your feelings, and being willing to consent to change the relationship structure and give up the manogomy that they thought they were signing up for. Really it doesn't sound like you're getting either. But also that based on what you've...

MsEmotional... I think the question/comment that you want to say to him is entirely appropriate. If you want to soften it a bit, you could always say something like, "hey, you might just not realize this, but you are kinda doing that exact same thing that you complain about other people doing...

While I only have 1 partner currently that I live with and see every day unless 1 of us is traveling, my history with partners is that for those I don't live with, 2x a week is my max average (as an average, there could be a week where I happened to see a partner more if schedules allowed), but...

While I only have 1 partner currently that I live with and see every day unless 1 of us is traveling, my history with partners is that for those I don't live with, 2x a week is my max average (as an average, there could be a week where I happened to see a partner more if schedules allowed), but...

Ugh, I started a diet today.... after breakfast. LOL (I ate the last of a pack of poptarts for breakfast, so def not diet friendly). Of course, I packed a great little salad for lunch and forgot my low cal dressing, so I just ate it with no dressing. NOT THE SAME. Salads without dressing...

Ugh, I started a diet today.... after breakfast. LOL (I ate the last of a pack of poptarts for breakfast, so def not diet friendly). Of course, I packed a great little salad for lunch and forgot my low cal dressing, so I just ate it with no dressing. NOT THE SAME. Salads without dressing...