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Hello, BlondeKim, and may I add a belated welcome to the forum. :) I think we've covered the introductions now... and as Al said in an earlier comment, if you just want to update about your developing situation, that's fine. You may want to consider starting a blog in that section in order to...

Hi, senry, and welcome to the forum. It has proven a great source of support for me over the past year, and I hope you'll find it equally valuable. :) I don't want to use the term NRE junkie, but despite being non-monogamous, it's possible your wife is monoamorous/monosexual, and can only...

I'm not sure if this is a rhetorical question, but I'll answer anyhow. I am a generous (though not wealthy) person, and tend to "treat" others if and when I can. Therefore I don't mind if others do the same on occasion. Having said that, I don't really date people casually. I have no problem...

I commend you for apologising after thinking more deeply about Gemma's dilemma, Magdlyn. And I believe you make some very valid points in your latest response. Especially about not being able to unring the poly bell... and it being naïve thinking on the part of Gemma's husband to have assumed...

There is no easy way, and I truly feel for you, having to make such a difficult choice. But from your posts, it seems an ultimatum from your husband is not far away... then what? Perhaps there is a middle ground regarding physical affection toward your bf. I know you probably meant that as a...

Gemma, since you're all great friends and your boyfriend has already suggested taking a break from the sexual relationship, may I suggest this: - Husband commits to a course of physical therapy aimed at strengthening muscle tone and control. (I realise he may be embarrassed and...

Or one of our recent "contributors" in disguise...

You can try to spin this debate any which way, Taramafor, but the fact remains that (non-consensual) violence against another person is WRONG: legally, morally, ethically; and immensely harmful emotionally, mentally and physically - regardless of whatever "reasons" the person may feel they have...

Ultimately, only the OP can decide how much she's willing to put up with and what to do about the abusive situation (leave, report to police, get counselling etc.) However, I beg to differ with a few of your assertions, Taramafor: there IS a "right" and a "wrong" in Brooklyn's situation and...

I'm sorry you're experiencing so much jealousy in relation to your partner dating somebody new. While it's a normal emotion, and almost to be expected when relationship dynamics change in relation to someone new being introduced, it's never a pleasant feeling. There are a lot of resources...

Well, I agree with you to a large extent, powerpuff. I'm sorry if that didn't come across. I myself have ASD and a range of other, clinically diagnosed conditions such as anxiety and depression and have also studied some psychology. While I realise that doesn't make me an expert who's able to...

I won't say I "couldn't" do this, however so far, I never have done the FWB thing. Being somewhat demisexual, I tend to only *want* to be physically intimate with someone I have already developed feelings for to some degree, and on the flip-side, being sexual with someone on a regular basis...

Oh, Opalescent, I really feel for you. I am there too, with all of the above. Been battling depression for the past year or more, due to relationship issues and the LD thing/lack of touch. Just turned 50 and definitely starting to go into menopause. Having ASD and anxiety/social phobia, I...

Thank you, Opalescent. Surgery has been scheduled for a couple of weeks from now.

If you haven't already, ladyjane, do some research into narcissism and narcissist personality disorder. I agree with KC that the behaviours and attitude your former partner exhibited toward you smack strongly of traits common among narcissists and emotional abusers (gaslighting, manipulation...

Thank you for your kind words, powerpuff and Hannah. xx The support from this community is a life raft in and of itself.

Bad news for Boho My female partner, Boho, has had a run of relatively serious health issues this past year, and now it looks like she may actually have cancer. She went for a scheduled, follow-up mammogram last week (after having discovered a supposedly innocuous mass in her breast at the...

I know this was a response to another poster's comment... but if I may, I just have to address the point you make about being married... assuming that is going to mean being each other's primary... and not wanting things to change in that respect. While I understand where you're coming from...

This makes a great deal of sense... and I can see how the confusion would have arisen. This is why good communication is vital in poly relationships. Seems like you and George both want similar levels of (non) interaction with metamours, which should reduce the tension tremendously...

It doesn't seem weird (after all, you're addressing a poly discussion board in which most of the members are poly or non-mono to some degree)... it just may not be the most practical option for you right now. I guess, the way I see your situation is... if your wife is adamantly opposed to...