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Okay, I take your point (and KC43's) about not pushing her on the "why" question right now, as she may not be able to fully articulate her reasons. FWIW, "I just wasn't thinking" and "it just happened" may be a true, to an extent, however from your OP it seems to me this wasn't just a "one-off"...

First and foremost, I agree with the others here that your wife needs to get appropriate counselling and treatment for her depression, if she isn't already. Nothing will get better for her, or for your relationship, if she neglects her mental health. Sure, your wife broke the agreed-upon...

To a great extent I agree with Dagferi's assessment. Sounds like H has been telling you BOTH what he thinks you want to hear: he tells YOU he's committed and still into the idea of moving out of state to better your lives... meanwhile tells G that his relationship with you isn't all that...

My former husband and I didn't open up our marriage; we grew apart, and ended the relationship amicably after I fell in love with another man online, and he with a woman at work. I pursued a mono LDR with my new partner, Jester, after this. We were together for a year before issues between...

This woman is either no longer interested, a game-player, or a total novice when it comes to non-monogamous relationships. As for the "playing hard to get"/consensual rape scenario... that is dangerous territory. You don't just go into it like that... these things have to be negotiated AND...

I am also in two relationships - both LDR. (My partners know each other well and used to be involved with each other, but now they're both mono with me as hinge.) As for your question... a lot of people will tell you that this is one of the bonuses of being poly --- the ability to transfer the...

You're definitely not alone in your feelings of heartbreak and pain resulting from a mono/poly relationship that clearly wasn't working in your favour. I'll leave the age difference alone, except to say that this has been a steep learning curve for you, and I hope you can finally admit to...

I must confess I've been on ALL sides of this situation - i.e. --- I've been cheated ON when I was younger. --- I've emotionally cheated (albeit, this is a difficult one to define, as my ex-husband and I were living apart for some years and have officially separated since, and he was also...

Originally Posted by lunabunny View Post Just to clarify: you're a male, Cardinal? I assumed so from the rest of your post, but it's important to know for sure because any advice given might be somewhat different depending on your gender. As you're male and in an otherwise healthy...

I hope my first post didn't come across as overly negative regarding the possibility of a mono/poly relationship working. Of course it IS possible. I myself am the hinge in a "V" in which my two partners are basically monogamous to me. The difference is, although Jester and Boho are not...

Just to clarify: you're a male, Cardinal?

As always, GalaGirl gives great advice and asks all the right questions. The way I see it, even though you might be "crazy in love" with Prince right now, the chances of a relationship working out long-term are pretty slim simply because the basics don't line up and it's already not meeting...

It's called poly-AMORY (amour = love) for a reason. If this man's wife doesn't love him anymore and has been honest about her lack of feelings for him, why bother to continue in the relationship and go through all the emotional processing that comes with "opening up" and additional partners...

I'll just add... to answer your questions: My children were both legally adults by the time they became aware I'm in a poly relationship, although one is still a student and lives at home with me. It doesn't directly affect them (yet) because my relationships are long distance, although it...

Most people in our society - especially the older generations who grew up in conservative/religious environments - have been indoctrinated into the belief that straight, monogamous coupledom is the "right" way to live life because it's the norm and/or sanctioned by God and State. Therefore...

I've never been involved in swinging or the like, but this all sounds very odd to me; this access to each other's personal phones, conversations, even houses a partner shares with another (that you're not involved with romantically). There are lots of areas here that I would personally...

Yeah, I agree with GalaGirl that the above statements/arrangement doesn't quite "mesh". You say you "THREE are trying to conceive", YET you also say she (and hubby) will have a baby with or without your agreement. It's unclear how much say-so you have, if any, in their plans to conceive and...

I'm not sure if Mags mentioned it (if so I missed it), but I linked JackieJ's OP earlier in this thread. In fact, when MajorMerrick first started posting, the likeness between "her" story and JackieJ's, as well as a the timing, just struck me as highly... "coincidental". Admittedly...

Since you intend to pursue this relationship, know that being the mono partner in a mono/poly relationship is likely to be difficult at times. Some feelings of jealousy and possessive are normal and will arise at times, especially if there are changes in dynamics or agreements. Be gentle...

For those who missed this thread over in the Spirituality section: So there it is... "poly seems to be a way to make it all happen". Along with converting to a cult religion (in name only) whose beliefs she doesn't particularly agree with, in order to further a personal romantic and sexual...