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Update: talked to my crush who is a long time friend, he said no because of the distance. It was awkward. That was over a week ago and I'm still upset over it. My husband has been very sweet and supportive. It has brought us closer but I still feel guilty for being all mopey over another man in...

Yes therapy helps immensely! He told me today he thinks he is ok with me approaching my crush. I'm excited. We are going to talk about it in therapy in a few minutes. I'm going to bring up that point, that it's harder for straight men. If he were bi I think he'd have lots of offers because...

Thank you. I am going to try to get him to agree to that. For now I'm just not going to say anything because I think we are both tired of talking about it.

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That's a good idea. It just frustrates me because he says if he had someone already then it would be easier on him, but he is having a hard time finding someone. And it makes me feel like it's not fair and I'm going to go have a little tantrum over how unfair it is like a child. I'm going to...

I'm having a similar issue with my husband. It is so uneven out there for poly men.Most of the poly women are looking for a single man or a bi woman. I think he is better trying to meet people in person but it's still difficult. Good for you for not wanting to bring her down.

I'm the one who wanted to go from mono to poly. We have been working really hard on communicating until we are exhausted, processing our feelings, figuring out what we want our guidelines to be. We are in therapy. My husband has asked one person out who said no He's on an online site and not...

So we went to therapy and talked about the guy I am interested in who is long distance. I said I don't want him to be a guinea pig at all and that I know my husband isn't ready for me to tell this guy I'm poly or ask him if he's interested. She suggested I talk to someone on OKC and try to see...

She said she isn't into poly. So it's a no. He is ok. At least he tried.

He's going to ask her out tonight. They've messaged some already. I hope she says yes.

I don't think he will. He is just looking at it like it's a possibility and so am i.

Yes. It's not like he had sex with her. We have no idea if this is just a friends thing.

Oh yes of course.

Thanks everyone. I asked him what he wants to do on my side of things and he said he didn't know yet. So I think I'm going to see how things go with him so he doesn't have to process his feelings of guilt and weirdness with other women while also processing jealousy and anxiety over my...

Thank you. He just had a major panic attack last week over a guy asking me out, and the pain of causing him pain was starting to depress me. And I am in love with a friend of mine, which my husband is aware of.

They say it's always darkest before the dawn. He went out last nighr, I just wasn't in the mood. He was up really late and slept in, and I was out doing things. So this afternoon we talked and I told him I was about to throw in the towel. He said that he met someone last night. What??? Oh yeah...

And just leaving him is going to hurt him too. So how is that any better you know? I'm bif on being ethical and I feel like there's no ethical way out.

I'm so depressed right now I can't get out of bed. We have been going to therapy and I know he's trying but the reality is he is wired for monogamy. Months later he still can't imagine another man touching me without feeling nauseous. I was on OKC with his permission and thought a man was...

We went on vacation last week, had a great time. There was one night when we had a long talk about poly and he expressed his concerns. I think he needs to read More Than Two because so much of what he is worried about is covered in there. Things like time management, etc. He started an account...

I asked him the other day if he would set up a poly dating profile because I'm really curious about how I would feel. I just want to know if I'm going to feel jealous or insecure even just seeing that. And I want to know how I'll feel if he starts talking to other women. He said he would but we...