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Just adding some clarification I told him I felt forgotten and unloved during the time of the even and very much after. (I really hope that didn't come across as me like being rude or something 😭 if it did I apologize)

Not completely tossed aside. I still want him to be my Dom, its just hard to be his sub if I can't trust that he'll follow rules and boundaries when any type scenes (and I tend to like hard-core ones)

I had the same thoughts. Its hard because we're far waya from eachother. Not trying to argue, reading your post had my questioning and thinking on things. (Which is good so I don't keep spiraling on the negative thoughts)

Update: Everyome has been so helpful and I am forever grateful for the advice and conversations. We talked for hours. I asked him how he felt when everything and about happening, told him how I felt. Explained to him that years of trust needs to be built to even think about doing something like...

I honestly think that the safest way for me to approach a threesome again in the future. I won't get hurt because honestly, for me, if they go off and do something one on one, I'll be like "Awww." Also, I wouldn't want anyone to go through what I have. So I definitely will be making sure what...

Thank you. We're spending a weekend together so hopefully we can talk about what steps to take. Kink is important to me and also how we met. On a kink base dating app. Everyone including you have been very helpful and I want to thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my post. ❤️‍🩹...

Kinda, yeah. We live about an hour away from each other, but we still text every day. Have felt some disconnect, to be honest.

You have no idea how helpful you have been (and everyone else). It helps having a clear conversation without having to worry about being judged, and just straight to the point advice. When I asked him, he has said long hours from work, new meds, being tired, or alcohol. But without going into...

Yeah we did talk about. I straight up ask him why he hasn't finished like he used to lately and how I thought maybe it's because I can't do the things she can. He is still seeing her, yes. I haven't asked how their relationship is going because honestly, I'm afraid to, but also I never really...

I'm so sorry I am taking you advice seriously and putting it in my kink notebook but I did laugh outloud at 3 😆 "Lube" I dont know why it just made my day lol. But yes I'll go forward with this once I feel ready to try again.

I have three partners. I have seen them on dates before at like the state fair, popular restaurants for big events. I ask her. So usually if we know we are going to bump into each other with another partner, we go over what is allowed. If we happen to see each other without knowing we would, I...

Hearing that, you could be right, because yes, we do use lube.

I did ask him a lot of questions, because my mind was scattered, and I wanted to know what rules were broken. Not just the rule of him excluding me, and he did say he finished in her while I was in the bathroom. The shower time was his idea, since I couldn't have sex on the bed due to my period...

No sorry I can elaborate. So the entire three years when we had sex it was great. Used toys, lube, etc., and we'd both come multiple times. Since the threesome with her, he hasn't been the same. I still finish, but he really hasn't, and makes me feel maybe because she was cuter/younger, etc. ik...

Oh wow this makes replying so much easier. Thank you! Yes, for awhile, then the bills got too high.

Thank you for the response and steps to start again. I was literally replying to someone else how he can regain my trust and this helps thank-you. I do freeze when very high stressful events occur and that's mostly due to past trauma. I also have a bad habit of putting people first a lot, so I...

Thank you for responding ❤️‍🩹 After talking with my female friends they also said that's honestly the number one reason why they haven't gone through with one. When you say he has to earn my trust back, I completely agree. I'm just so lost on how that's supposed to look like. Thank you for...

Thank you for your input. (I really appreciate it. I'm do at expressing gratitude over the phone so I apologize if it sounds like I'm being bland) We are a poly couple and I also agree that one on one is always the best. I like the connection and bonding. A lot of the things you're saying is...

The next day when checking out we talked about it. Lots of yelling and crying from me and apologies from him. He said I could hit him, but I didn't want to. He promised not to do it again. But the only way I know for sure he won't is if we have another one, and I'm scared to. We talked it out...

Thank you for your reply. ❤️‍🩹 For the threesome He inserted it in me first and finish on us or in me (unless I've said otherwise) No playing without me No saying I love you to the other person And everyone is tested beforehand and after Our relationship is D/s, while also being boyfriend and...