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I'm with everyone who says that you shouldn't feel like you need to stop blogging because you've discovered that monogamy is what works best for you. A lot of polyamory things are actually just relationship things, after all. But I totally understand how you might no longer need a polyamory...

There are no really major updates in the Leaves household. My friend Thrash has stood me up for two Saturday hang-outs in a row, and I know that if we were dating I'd be annoyed, but we aren't! So I'm not! It's pretty fabulous. Instead, I had a date day with Guitarist on Saturday and we...

I'm still here! With my Raven crisis over, though, I haven't had as much processing to do. My relationships with Guitarist and Flame are predictable, loving, and supportive, so I'm a happy woman. I'm not pining for anything else yet so I'm just going to be happy with what I have, while this...

I had a good counseling session, yesterday, which helped with processing the end of my gilrfriendship with Raven. I am even more firmly convinced that I made the right decision there. I'm still sad and working through some grieving stuff, but I do think this is for the best. Even though I'm...

I had my impacted, lower wisdom teeth surgically extracted at 16 because they were pushing on my nerves and making my face go numb. The first thing I remember is that the nurse was wiping my face with kleenex and telling me yes honey we'll get your mom as soon as you stop crying. I don't really...

So I ultimately came down on the side of that Friday's behavior was not loving behavior, I deserve to be treated better, and the lack of "hell yes" indication from both sides had been strong for a while so it was time to call it like it was. I told Raven our 'ship wasn't working for me as a...

In this context, "many" is "a large but indefinite number." It has nothing to do with people who have decided they're not straight before/after/while having sex with someone. And while "many" people could be described as knowing that they're straight before ever being involved in sex, "many"...

Sexuality is not demonstrative. Many people know whether they are straight or not without ever having had sex with anyone else. A bisexual person certainly doesn't have to try sexual contact with various genders to figure out whether they're attracted to more than one gender.

I also don't mind people who are exploring, especially when they're open and honest about that they're exploring. And sexualities do shift. I've gone from full lesbian to considering myself bi or pan, all while various places on the seuxality/ace spectrum. I agree with you about good faith...

My legal brain is telling me that there's something not right with your situation. Does the divorce mediator know about your financial situation? Does The Signal have no means of support? How are you owed $12,500 during a divorce, that your divorce attorney isn't trying to collect for you or...

Whoa. The guy said that his wife seemed gut-punched, and he seemed honestly concerned about her reaction. I was just offering some perspective why she might feel that way (a lot of newly poly people don't think about the difficulties of triangulating hard conversations about sharing spaces and...

I had been going to post this as a response in opal's blog but then it got long, so I'm putting it here instead. This really resonates with me. I get it that some women are going to explore and decide they don't dig the vag. But how does that turn into treating people like the whole...

Not much new to report. Guitarist is talking about getting his testing done so we might be able to do unprotected things soon. My post-Flame tests remain negative, which is expected but also nice. I miss Flame right now, but that's pretty par for the course. The worries I thought I might have...

I agree with a lot of other things posted. One thing that hasn't been mentioned, though, is that she might be anxious about having to triangulate the situation to him about why things have been different, and she might have a concern about how to answer any questions he has, or getting stuck in...

I'm so sorry to hear that =(

My poor infrequent updates. Apparently I changed my password on my phone and can't figure it out for my home computer. Since I've been busy at work lately, I'm not sitting around with a lot of time and my phone. On Friday, I had an issue with Raven. We'd talked and the plan was she would be...

And now my fucking furnace is going out and needs to be replaced. I get that all of our appliances were probably purchased at the same time about 30 years ago but if I could catching a financial fucking break here that would be really nice.

It's been snowing like crazy lately. This is part of the reason I'd have trouble seriously dating anyone father away than Small City, which is about 20 minutes for me in good weather. In bad weather, 20 minutes turns into 1+ hours, and an hour would turn into 2 or 3. Just too much transit time...

As far as the white/affluent/able thing goes, I'm aware that my anecdotes aren't a study, but... I have some serious anxiety and depression. I'm also on the asexual spectrum. My girlfriend Raven and her husband Ravenhub are poor, Ravenhub is disabled, Ravenhub's girlfriend is disabled. Ravenhub...

My date with Raven ended up getting canceled. I was sick, she was on her period and didn't feel like coming out. She said that she would have canceled the board gaming plans anyway because of how she was feeling. I'm utterly not shocked. I've been pretty ambivalent about this relationship for...