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I somehow managed to survive multiple thanksgivings over the weekend. Raven didn't come over on Friday, but since I wasn't actually expecting her to, I didn't have a melt-down or anything. Much like Guitarist, when she says she 'might' do something, I'm coming to realize that means there is a...

Tomorrow, I'm doing Thanksgiving with Guitarist's mom and step-dad, Friday Raven is maybe coming over, and Saturday I'm doing Thanksgiving with my family. All the social. So much social. Shoot me now.

I can't do this because I don't attribute any scars to you. Even if I was willing to accept that you're broken (which I still don't think, but I can't tell you how to think about yourself)... Last year, November was nano+heart trouble on my mom's part. This year, it's nano+lung trouble on my...

Raven and I texted quite a bit this morning about my anxiety and her new kitten (squee!). The more distance I get from my melt-down on Friday, the more I feel like it was more a function of anxiety. Was Raven's behavior inconsiderate? Sure. But did I overreact? Also sure. I'm not sure it's...

Update: After I calmed down and stepped off the anxiety/depression merry-go-round of bad feelings and illogical thoughts, we had a good text conversation about what went wrong on my end. A lack of concrete plans/change of plans thing regarding a large, people related event is very anxiety-making...

It’s crazy how things in my life can go from feeling fine to feeling suddenly not fine in the span of a day or two. Maybe it’s my craziness in action. Because at least with the present Raven stuff, I know that my anxiety is playing a part in everything. We made plans to go to the local winter...

If Rider is asking you for details and things, and then getting jealous about them, that's more of a him thing. I'm recently rereading the jealousy chapter in More Than Two and it really goes into a lot of that "first dibs" kind of stuff. Maybe that would be helpful for him/Dustin/you to read...

Things around here have been just going along. I didn't get to see Raven last week because I was super sick and I didn't want to pass anything on to her. Tomorrow night we might be going to Small City's annual holiday parade thing and tree lighting, if the weather is nice enough. I'm not...

I talk about mental health stuff pretty early. I think at least anxiety is in my dating profile, if not both anxiety and bipolar II. For me, the bottom line is that if someone has strong negative feelings about mental illnesses, I don't want to date them. So let's not waste each other's time.

Just now reading about your daughter. OMG that sucks. Hugs and hopes for a full recovery. I know you're feeling overwhelmed, but you got this.

I've been disgustingly sick and also on my period. As if that wasn't obviously coming from the Serious Grumps that I had. I didn't get around to discussing sex stuff with Raven. Seeing her made me feel better about everything and I'm back to enjoying what we have instead of what I wish we had...

It sounds like he was fine hearing your next-day plans until you mentioned that they were with Dustin. Hearing about your Dustin stuff (plans, things that happened) doesn't make him feel safe and secure. Understandably so in my opinion, because the ground is shaking under him. Didn't you...

Well, the restlessness turned into a mild crash, as I had the feeling it was going to do. My brain has spent the past couple days picking apart everything that's "wrong" with my current relationships and trying to convince me that everything would be better if I just lived alone for the rest of...

I've been constantly going for over two weeks getting prepared for Nanowrimo and on Sunday, everything crashed. I went to a nano planning event Thursday, went to Spice's house to play a spooky video game on Friday, carved pumpkins with my niece on Saturday, and by the time Sunday rolled around...

I'm also polyamorous and demisexual! It makes online dating difficult and frustrating for sure. But it's also pretty freeing in the sense that I don't feel like I'm depriving my all allosexual partner of all sexual expression when I'm not in a place to want to have sex with them (yet or, in...

It turns out there's a train station about 10 minutes from where Flame is living. Which makes a winter trip a lot more doable, especially since it wouldn't involve flying. I'm so grumpy the past couple days. Between that and eating everything, I don't even know what's up. I was bleeding like...

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better, and your conversations lately have gone well (for the most part). I don't think you're crazy at all. The things you're feeling and going through DO make sense. I also hope that the boundary with Oona improves your guys' relationship. Boundaries can be...

In my experience, new boundaries have to be enforced the hardest and most often until they settle in to being the new normal. I get that you're burned out and lacking in benefit of the doubt right now, but since it's a change for you, Rider probably just forgot. Him needing a while to adjust to...

I kind of wish I had more things to say lately, but at the same time, I'm glad I don't. Things are going decently around here! Raven's talk with her family seems to have gone pretty well, and Guitarist tells me that Spice has an offer for a job she really wanted. My date night with Raven this...

You aren't your best when you're burnt out. No wonder you're having such a hard time processing right now. You're throwing so much time and energy into balancing yourself and pleasing everyone else that you have no time to please yourself and do what YOU want. Here's another option: schedule a...