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AJoy, Thanks for the insight. One thing that is important to note is that they don't have a child together. The child is Boo's biological child and Thinker's bonus (step) daughter. I would absolutely love if things were different and we could all get along. As stressful as it is for me, I...

LOL.. Very quickly. All happened within 2 months.

Thank you ALL for your helpful input! I appreciate it greatly. In all fairness to everyone involved (Thinker, Boo and myself) - there are other details to the story that are not in the OP. some good... some bad... it's just a lot to try and write in a story that would keep people's attention...

I am in a V with a married woman. Prior to engaging in a relationship with Boo (37), I asked her husband Thinker (54) for his blessing to begin dating his wife. D was very accepting and eager for me to date her. Thinker & Boo had discussed their desire to live life poly. (As it turns out, Boo...

Hey Mer, I can understand your questions pretty well. I'll do my best to answer them in what is my opinion and I'm sure others will have their own opinions of the correct answers as well. As to your first question: My first experience in poly was when I was married to my now ex-wife. At the...

Interesting turn of events and some understanding among all of us So, a lot has happened since I posted last. I have decided for various reasons to not pursue any type of relationship/friendship with N. She was obviously much more into me than I was her and was starting to show some severe...

Thanks for the advice, Nycindie!

Great weekend... T and I got to spend some real quality time together. D went to visit his parents this weekend out of town, so T and I took the opportunity to spend as much time together as possible. I picked T up Friday night and brought her to my house. This was her first sleepover with me...

Congrats!

I FORGOT TO MENTION: The intent of this is not to be a one-sided monologue, but more of an interactive discussion... I don't know why I failed to mention this before.

... update ... and frustration Today was a rough day for T. She was going through a lot. I wanted to see her, but I knew that it was probably not possible. However, when plans for myself changed, we happened upon a spontaneous opportunity to be together this evening for a few hours. We made...

Divorced, professional man, 38 who is dating an amazing woman who is married to another man. Very open and honest with my feelings about being poly. I'm a single father. I have 4 children aged 19, 17, 14 and 13. My 17 year old daughter lives with me and knows my life choices. While it's not...

Cool, wasn't trying to sway you one way or another, but in reality, if the relationship is something that your wife wants/enjoys it may even make it easier on her to relax and not feel the tension between you two. And if the wife is happier..... you'll be happier, right?

Hey Jackson, I'm glad it helped you, but I think that in my situation that this was a very negative thing for me. (As it may be for your wife's BF) No one wants to feel like they are simply tolerated. As a secondary partner, you want to feel valued by all metamours. It's not a good feeling to...

I've been wanting to write about our relationship for the purpose of keeping record of how things progress. T (wife) and D (husband) have been together (married) for 5 years. They have always been interested in Poly, but have never practiced it. I am very interested in Poly as well and have a...

Gala, I have to give you credit, you're always so helpful with your advice! I really appreciate your responses and they have given me a lot to process! After looking at the situation, that is something I can agree with. I think that he is concerned that IF it ends badly, it could be a...

I want to believe him, but what he says and how he "presents" it are very conflicting. He tells me in one sentence that he thinks this will end badly for me and I should be aware of this, but in the next sentence he said he wasn't trying to discourage me. I'm not saying that I don't believe...

Ok, so I've found a woman that I'm really excited to say that I am now dating seriously. She (T) is married and her husband (D) is a great guy. My concern is that while T and I are building a great foundation for a deep, loving relationship, D appears to be uncomfortable. D & T invited me to...

Thanks. I think my situation is similar in that I was always raised to be mono. I came to a point in my life with my ex-wife, where I knew something was missing and she was "fairly" open minded about things, so we tried swinging. While it was fun and all, it still didn't quite fit what I felt...

Hi everyone, my first post here and I've come here because I'm pretty sure that I am poly and I've always been poly. What I'm looking for is: From your personal experiences, do you believe that you were born poly or do you think that poly is a life choice that you conciously made? For me, I...