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Hmm. I don't love him, I've only met A twice and love is a very slow thing for me in most cases. I do like him a lot. The first time he canceled our plans, his wife had just had a breast cancer scare and he wanted to be there for her. (She turned out to be fine, thankfully, her results were...

So I thought I was starting a new relationship. I've known A at least virtually for about four months and we seem to have a great connection. He's smart, funny, sensitive, introspective, sweet, and seems totally into me too. We are both in long-term marriages with children, we both identify as...

Will A still support your relationship with M even if her relationship with J fizzles? I wouldn't assume that is a given. It sure wasn't in the two quads I attempted. That's why I won't do a quad anymore.

I bet they won't be back either, the members of this site didn't coo at them and give them a link to the site with the unpaid bisexual prostitutes. They're in their 20s. If they are halfway attractive and find an actual swinger dating site and don't act like jerks there, they'll find someone...

Ah, quads. They are complicated. I have been in two myself. I am wondering, are you genuinely sexually attracted to your quad boyfriend? If not, that could explain why you don't want sex with him. It's quite possible to have an emotional attraction to someone, even love them, without wanting...

Thanks, Kevin, for your support. I hadn't really thought about this being a potential learning experience for Sam, but I suppose it will be if things go as badly as I suspect they will. That is something anyway. AlwaysGrowing, I don't think Bill is even aware that I am friendly with Sam, so I...

Multiple users told me to ignore london ages ago, and I didn't, but her negativity and hostilty (which I don't understand since I certainly don't know her personally) has proven a bit much for me, so I just did. For those of you who don't know how this works, you just go to the User CP tab in...

GalaGirl, I tend to feel protective of people I like, and want to spare them pain if I can. I guess I am also not a big fan of Lisa, she has been pretty nasty to at least one of her metamours, who is a good friend of mine. The poly world can be too small sometimes.

I have a friendly acquaintance I will call Sam. Sam is involved in the early stages of a romantic, long-distance relationship with Lisa. I am also pretty good friends with Bill, one of Lisa's partners. Bill has revealed to me that his relationship with Lisa has been sexless for some years, and...

NYCindie said it perfectly.

Depression and self-esteem issues? Yes, I've dated that, several times. My experience has been, a guy who is depressed and feels worthless in some way can be a very sweet, attentive, wonderful partner, until eventually it dawns on him that if he's worthless and you really care about him, then...

I have dealt with this, yes, but in my case the man was in a long-term marriage, with a pile of kids. His wife would never actually admit she was jealous, she just came up with a lot of irrational reasons to be upset with me. (One of them was, she felt that when our quad hung out all together...

Hoyam, I think I get where you are coming from. I had a very long-distance relationship for about two years (partner was in the same country, but 2000 miles away). I can report that when someone is far away and time with them is rare and precious, they can seem utterly and completely perfect...

I see a common theme here, with female partners getting kicked out of a relationship because the other female, usually a primary partner, got jealous. It happened in both the relationships I already wrote about. I knew that my female metamour in my relationship with Boyfriend 1 had always been...

Yes, twice. Boyfriend 1 and I have no contact now, and I believe it is because the person who came between us, his domme, would be displeased with him if we did. I wrote to him a few times over the past few years and tried calling once and he never responded. We were together over two years and...

Honey, you're a bi poly woman in your 20s. The world is your oyster. I would so dump Bear's ass based on his Valentine's Day behavior alone. Yuck. What a bastard. Not even a card? He sucks.

I would definitely recommend socializing in the poly community and trying to make more poly friends. If your wife is going to be in a poly relationship, you will likely need more support and advice than you can get on a forum, the kind of support you can get from trusted friends. Polyamory ain't...

When he was processing his jealousy and discomfort with my proposition, and was coming to terms that he would have rather not known, he confessed that he has stepped out "a few times", but never told me because he took pains to make those affairs self-contained; jsut sex, once, and he drops...

The other day I turned down a threesome with a couple of really sexy girls with great personalities. But I'm committed to my marriage so I don't ever follow through with any of it. I am wondering, just how did you get to the point where you were offered this sexual situation? Generally, people...

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married. But your triad partners are not available for marriage, so you will need to find someone else for that. The beauty of polyamory is, you can. You can date single people who are available for marriage even if your triad partners don't want to...