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As someone new to poly but not new to casual sex (swinging) I guess the communication aspect comes easily...that, and I've learned my lessons. For your situation...if I were in it...I would most certainly be taking responsibility for my OWN health and safety. Part of that is understanding a...

I couldn't answer your other questions but I can this I don't have enough true poly experiences to answer your OP questions, but I can answer this one, for myself, anyway. The answer for me would be: QUESTION 1: Because I truly love my poly partner, and having them in my life in whatever...

Your original post led me to look up the definition of COMPERSION. A new word for me, but turns out to be something I have had spotty experience with. Anyway I found this online while looking for the definition of COMPERSION and thought you might enjoy reading it. It's much more than a...

Hey Vicarious, I want to validate your arousal issues. After 10 years as a swinger spent figuring out the connection between my brain pan and my plumbing I GOT IT. I now find myself in a quad, poly relationship with my wife and another couple. Casual sex...I thought I wanted it. Before we...

Galagirl I love the way you lay things out.

Two Directions From what I'm reading you and DH want two different things. You are being pulled in two different directions in regards to sex/relationships outside of your marriage. He wants casual sex. You want a relationship. You will let him swing. He isn't happy with you having a...

I'm in a quad for the past 6 months...we all just acknowledged it as the poly quad that it is a week ago...we all come from swinger backgrounds so it took a while to make the leap in realizing what we were all a part of.

Hi KerrBear. Your post struck me as someone very STUCK inside themselves. Going in emotional circles...caught in a vicious cycle. Your feeding the cycle. I'm going to take a hard and fast approach at this - all good intentioned. Look at these quotes from your post: These are the...

How about some more background. If I read your post, you are walking right out of the "normative" or "vanilla" world into a poly forum looking for advice about how to discuss a potential poly situation with 3 other people who you have no idea how they would react to that notion? What led you...

Nadya, Youarehere & Gorgeouskitten - thank you all for taking an interest and sharing a kind thought.

I've been enjoying and learning from the stories surrounding you and yours too Nudge. Thank you so much! No matter how many times I learn that lesson about communication there still seems to be a lump in my throat to get over. Fortunately that grows smaller every time!

YES we surely did. It was my girlfriend who first mentioned this feeling like a poly relationship after only a couple months. However it was my interpretation that in saying that it scared the CRAP out of her because she was really wrestling with the idea of her husband being in love with...

Relationship Update So here's an update on our quad relationship. This past Friday we all got together for the weekend again. It was an exciting day because for the first time we were all going to talk about how we wanted to handle dealing with relationship / emotional issues as they came up...

Thanks Thank you for the replies and warm welcome. I very much appreciate your support and encouragement. I will be reading up more on the forum and look forward to learning a lot from the path many of you have been on for quite a while. I'm in a whole new territory now and quite honestly...

Sounds familiar Hey OP, this is me: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=56025 6 months into what started out of swinging we find is very much a quad relationship. It's a LOT of work and the benefits are TENfold if not more what the work can be. Much of the work I find now has...

Barely crossing over This is me: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=56025 I had some thoughts before reading this thread...and am glad for the thread because now I have more thoughts...expanded thoughts. In my budding situation we're just barely accepting the poly nature of our...

If you share my story... By the way...if you can relate to my story and have had a similar experience or are going through a similar situation...I would REALLY love to hear from you via a reply!

Hi Everyone, This is my first post. I was on the swinger boards today and thinking to myself "I'm in the wrong place...most of this stuff just doesn't apply to us anymore!" So here I am. My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married 10. Two years into our relationship we entered...