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There are a lot of flaky, crazy people on internet dating. Male and female. It's hard enough to sift through all the people who aren't even serious about meeting other humans.

Well yes, like I said; I can get plenty of responses from single, monogamous women. I know how to write a profile and message! :p For reference, I am fairly extroverted and I seem to only date people who are MORE extroverted and gregarious than myself. So my target audience is generally...

I did get a response from a poly girl when I invited her to a poly cookout meetup. She said that none of her metamours know each other. I found that slightly disappointing but there's no single way to do poly. My group is all very intimate. All of our V's, Y's, W's, and X's go out to the bar and...

I've seen people doing this but you have to be careful because, technically, you'd be using the purchased property for personal use. In most cases this isn't a problem but if the wrong people come snooping it can raise some red flags. Also, you'll have to be prepared to spend more on attorney's...

That's a good point. I have to consider the motivations of the people I'm messaging. A lot of twenty-somethings are not looking for anything serious so if I say I'm dating they are not intimidated by something scary like polyamory. Yeah I see this too. I do say it in my profile and I do have...

I've bumped into a lot of poly people I already know locally on OKCupid. Messaging them is usually pretty easy but I am finding I have lots of trouble messaging people I don't already know. The chief pattern I've noticed is that if I DON'T mention polyamory in my message, I am much more likely...

The realtor is irrelevant. The PROBLEM you will run into is when it comes time to finance the house. Depending on which state you're in, there are going to be different expectations. In more stuffy/conservative (backwards) states, they will be operating under the expectation of strict nuclear...

Gods yes. My girlfriend is a teacher and her and her husband have struggled to "make it on their own" and it's been tough. We've been looking at buying a duplex or a giant fixer-upper to convert into a big family home. It's kind of pathetic though; in America it's shameful to rely on your...

The idea of a single-family-home is a relatively new idea, cooked up in more recent times, during and post-industrial revolution. Ironically, everyone considers the nuclear family to be 'traditional' today but that is far from the truth. The majority of the world and the majority of history...

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http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/sunnews/specialreports/archives/2014/03/20140313-215357.html While I'm glad that the poly movement is picking up steam (apparently?) I'm not so sure about the common theme of comparing poly acceptance to gay acceptance. Okay, maybe there are some parallels. I...

...or it could be an attempt to marginalize the lifestyle... I've read several things by religious conservative bloggers that are more or less attacking the lifestyle and calling it a 'slippery slope' drawing the same parallels they did about homosexuality (because poly can TOTALLY lead to...

No, I meant to say that one should not measure poly relationships at all. I would simply look at how happy someone is in the poly lifestyle versus another lifestyle. Or any other basis of comparison.

That's a good point about identity. I have read about self-selection - people who refuse to respond to poly surveys out of fear but it hadn't occurred to me that some people may not identify as poly despite certain lifestyle choices. Although it stands to reason, as polyamory is only one form...

Everyone is bringing up such good points! I think that part of the confusion comes from mononormative culture where, yes, the success of a marriage is measured by it's length and stability. Part of the poly lifestyle is to be flexible and adapt to change. Sometimes you have to let a partner go...

There was a case of a "poly" couple losing their temper and murdering their third in NYC I believe. Here it is. So there are some examples of lower-class people in the lifestyle hitting the news. I think that one reason you typically see more affluent and educated people in the poly lifestyle...

Most academic research into polyamory has found that the community is overwhelmingly white, educated and affluent. The academics have also speculated that people from other demographics likely face more social backlash for deviating from social norms. They fear ostracism from careers, church...

We all live together so we're pretty close and in regular contact. And no, I don't think anyone wanted me to side with them even if it inevitably feels that way since I'm so close. We've agreed to a few boundaries that should prevent this sort of thing in the future and I made it very clear...

This question is about how to talk in a group setting or when there's multiple people involved. The vast majority of my communication experience has been one-on-one. But I'm finding that the dynamics of multiple people trying to communicate (as in a poly triad) is wholly different. Disastrously...

I had a situation where I was unhappy about the relationship between my partner and metamour. I did end the relationship but it was primarily due to communication problems between my partner and I. The friction between me and her metamour was just the final straw.