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I've been hella busy lately, in the best of ways. I was invited to do an art show in September for a prestigious local gallery, since one of their artists flaked on them. He just kind of upped and disappeared (hope he's not dead, really) and they cancelled his show. It's pretty last minute: the...

You see, this all makes much more sense to me! It was basically explained to me previously as more or less just hooking your nipples up to a car battery and turning it on, which to me sounds like zero fun at all. What you're describing sounds kind of like a TENS machine, which are very nice...

I agree! Also, I find female authors tend to do more interesting things with romance, if it's included in the plot, and, lets face it, I prefer it to be :D I find male authors particularly in fantasy and sci-fi venues really go for the woman-as-reward thing, which I am not a fan of. People are...

When my niece was three or so, she was over at my place for a visit. We were heading to the zoo, and she was so excited she made a poor decision and jumped off the back of my couch and broke her ankle. My mom was there at the time, thankfully, but my sister (my nieces' mom) was not. Her foot...

The Kushiel series would be EPIC and Julliet Marillier's "Heart's Blood"... yes, please! Others: ANYTHING from Lynn Flewelling: she works with alot of interesting LGBTQ+ themes in a fantasy setting, which is not usual for the genre at all. Plus, "The Bone Doll's Twin" and her Shadowstalker...

I've never really connected with the kink community; everyone in my area seems so... extreme. Fire and electrical play are very very popular, for example, and those seem like the least fun things someone could do to another. A lot of kinksters in my area are super ultra serious about it all, and...

When I was on OKC, I had a bunch of questions that I used to tell me if I would feel safe meeting this person or not. If you are answering the questions, I'm going to use them to judge you, straight up. Safety is really really important to me and when I compare my concern about it to my friends...

Heh, my stories go more the other way: I'll be talking to one and he'll mention something that I definitely didn't tell him, but did tell the other. Apparently my life is a subject of inter-triad gossip! I guess that's fair since I gossip about them with you guys :) It is weird to have them...

I spent last night at the guy's house. I think this has been the longest I've gone without seeing either since this triady-thing started. It was nice to have time on my own, but I was missing them pretty fiercely by Saturday. As we'd expected, when I got to their place last night the evening...

I'm glad you found someone! I didn't even know video conference therapy was a thing: that's amazing. When I was dealing with my agoraphobia and couldn't leave the house, I had a psychologist come to the me which was crazy expensive. A video conference would have been a great option. I...

I absolutely know what you mean! I live in an apartment and have a small container garden (okay... pretty extensive container garden) on my balcony, but this year one of my boyfriends asked me to help with his huge landscaped garden. It's so much fun! My family used to have a half-acre garden...

My poly friend asked me recently if I had to deal with "couples privilege" with Jaeger and Tails. I had to say that I didn't really know, but probably. I mean, one of the things that makes privilege privilege is that it's a systemic problem, right? Thus, to my thinking, it's going to come up...

I know what you mean, WanderingINTJ. When I was first entering therapy I was incredibly blessed to be partnered with a psychologist who specialized in phobias and anxiety in young adults (<25 years). They really seemed to "get" me, and sometimes seemed to be able to read my mind! Certainly they...

When your expectations for spectacular sex are suddenly set entirely too high. When you are having a disagreement with one partner and the other shouts from the couch: "You know he's right!" Filling your freezer with multiple tubs of ice cream because everyone thinks everyone else's favourite...

No news on the poly front. I was out with my dad today: going to the local art store for some supplies, picked up my niece and nephew for lunch then took them to a park, and returned them to their parents. Went for dinner and a walk by the river. It was really nice to spend some time with him...

Your request that your "partner" not sleep with someone else while you both attend the same event seems entirely reasonable to me, especially since you are fine with him reconnecting with whomever he likes a later date. From this and your previous posts, I agree with the others who've posted...

I met with the new therapist today, and I think we are going to do really well together! She's very calm, which I liked, and asked me a bunch of clever questions about my past and present situations. I think you can tell a lot about a person by the questions they ask. Her office is a little...

As someone who is in a triad, where three people are dating each other... all the things you are struggling with can/will happen in a triad, as well. The issue isn't that they happen, it's what you do about it when they do. Sometimes there is no solution. A previous relationship of mine (not a...

This really resonated with me. I called the office today and explained what a happened to the manager, who I've known for years. He was really apologetic about the whole thing, and offered me a no-charge session with another councilor. I want to try my friends tried-and-true poly-friendly person...

Spork, I agree with you on many points. I am very much an introvert. I can fake extroversion in certain situation for a certain amount of tie, but I definitely need to recharge away from people. I don't have any enemies- that's a waste of time and effort- but there are people I'd go to great...