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Part 6 Jaeger and I meshed really well. He is very level-keeled and isn’t upset by much, and I tend to be pretty driven. He is like a still pool that just goes on and on. Jaeger appreciates being the center of attention on occasion, and I enjoy having someone who I can pour all my considerable...

Part 5 Not long after out dinner, Jaeger invited me out for coffee. The whole week we'd been texting, while Tails and I sent each other cute kitten videos over Facebook. Jaeger and I met for coffee, and this was when he explained that he, Tails, and the blonde girlfriend had made up a longterm...

Part 4 I’ve known Jaeger for a few years. We are members of the same canoeing association. We’ve been on multiday group trips, taught some classes together, etc. He is a geologist and smashes rocks for a living, and I am a biologist and smash cells for a living, so we always have something to...

I can agree with the majority of what you say, for sure. I just didn't get that from the blog post, I suppose. I think mismatches in "love style" can work, provisionally, with effort on both sides. I'm definitely slow to warm up, and Tails is a firecracker of affection. However, we'd known each...

Part 3 Dating, however, was a disaster. An absolute trainwreck. Dealing with my fear of men was extremely difficult in regards to intimate relationships. I’ve never found the right words to describe my headspace while dating during that time. In any kind of conflict, even something so minor as...

Part 2 *Trigger Warning* Right around puberty I discovered boys are fascinating. I was very confused by this. I had all these feels and wants and they felt good, but they also made me a bad person. I believed that I was gross and that attraction and sex were bad, icky things. After my first sex...

Part 1 Over the past few days I’ve really enjoyed reading the life stories of the members on here. I’m not sure mine counts as “inspiring”, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come over my somewhat-less-than-thirty years. I’ve never written it all out like this and since I did the work I figure I may...

Absolutely feel free to ask! I love reasonable open-minded discussion. Thank you for your summary; that really cleared a few questions up for me. I'm sorry that you had those experiences; no one should should try to make you feel like your emotions aren't valid. However, I'd put forward that...

I don't think I get that blog post. A few of the arguments made me feel pretty icky. Can someone summarize? I think I'm missing something.

I'm better at it when I've made a decision on the situation and have a plan. I have many years of practice at interrupting harmful thoughts and rephrasing them to something more beneficial, at least once I've identified them. I still have trouble identifying what to "keep" and what to "toss"...

NB: I gave the guys nicknames since that seems common on this forum, and because "J" and "T" look a bit silly in conversation! Jaeger and Tails it is. I took GalaGirls' advice (and yours, nycindie), and asked that I not be included in any future "dreaming sessions" until further notice, since...

Thanks for the link to the thread, kdt26417! That was really helpful. I must not have been hitting the right keywords on my search. I don't really have much to add at the moment but I thought I'd ask since I've been doing a lot of searches, and keep finding really neat older discussions I...

Yes, I was feeling a bit trapped between a rock and a hard place. I'm planning on talking this over with my councilor, and taking that conversation to J and T. I do need to work on stronger boundaries with my family of origin. Making and keeping boundaries in friendships and relationships feels...

I'm not sure where to post this, so I thought I'd toss it here and hope it finds the right home. If there is an older thread I'd like to say something on, how old is to old? There is a chit-chat thread where the last post was in mid April that I'm interested in participating in, but I don't...

GalaGirl, thank you for sharing. That is possibly the most helpful post on difficult parent/child relationships I've ever read. Polypie, I don't really have any advice to share, but I am sorry you're having rough time.

Your summary really resonates with me, GalaGirl. I'm still learning open self expression, and I have to say it's a bit shocking to read exactly what I feel, written up by a stranger! Ouch. I see what you are saying but, no, I am not "always like this". I've been dealing with my panic for...

Hello! I'm in a fairly new (<4 month) relationship that is working its’ way to a triad. It's been wonderful, and scary, and very confusing. Thankfully, "T" and "J"- my guys (also each other’s guys) - are wonderfully supportive and patient with my learning curve. I care for them both- J is this...

Hello! I'm FeatherFool, 29, and in a fairly new relationship which is on it's way to triadhood (triadism?). I've never been one for long-term sexual relationships, so it's been a huge paradigm shift for me (you mean I have to talk about my feelings? Blergh!). Thankfully "J" and "T"- my guys-...