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  1. MsChristy

    New Metamour, all the rules changed, hurt

    You summarized it fairly well . Things are definitely transitioning, and I think I am struggling to be satisfied with how my relationship looks after . He and I have had a fairly solid relationship for 5+ years. The new girl is local to him and, unlike me they share a lot of hobbies. He has...
  2. MsChristy

    New Metamour, all the rules changed, hurt

    Hi all. I haven't posted in a while . I am a married female with a long distance long term poly male partner. In the last year my partner broke up with his long term partner, started dating a new partner, and is now cohabitating with plans to get engaged soon . This has been an adjustment...
  3. MsChristy

    Marital Issues, boyfriend

    Hi all. I have posted but it has been a while . I am in a polyamorous relationship with my bf of 5 years as well as being married to my husband for just as long . Husband and I have a child together . At the time bf and I got involved my marriage was new, but relationship was very stable ...
  4. MsChristy

    Longevity of relationships

    I have been in a poly v for 2 years that is still going very strong. While I obviously don't know what the future holds, we forsee being together for the foreseeable future, and talk about future plans involving all parties.
  5. MsChristy

    Guys who argue against protection

    I personally have never noticed a difference with or without condoms. I am not worried really about STI's, since both of my partners are rarely with others, but it is more about pregnancy prevention since I am not on birth control or using any method of contraception personally. With C we will...
  6. MsChristy

    Condoms bc

    This makes sense, but I also feel if it isn't high enough up won't it just start sliding down off the shaft during intercourse.
  7. MsChristy

    What if he doesn't really love his wife?

    I don't have any advice to add but just wanted to say I feel that I am in a similar situation to the OP, and this thread is exactly what I needed to read. I definitely feel a stronger more powerful love with my partner, and my husband was my first love. I don't think my husband really realizes...
  8. MsChristy

    Sex VS BDSM

    I get this mentality and have had friends tell me "sex is just sex" which in theory I would like to agree with, but the only two people i have ever had intercourse with are my two partners, so for me sex has always been tied to people I love and care about. It is much easier for my husband to...
  9. MsChristy

    Arguments against

    Exactly, no two parents or family backgrounds are the same. We all have to make the choice that is best for us and our family. I am grateful for those that are able to be out, and able to raise awareness of poly.
  10. MsChristy

    Arguments against

    Actually, no, my parents have never visited me. They live over 500 miles away and my mom has had extensive health problems. That being said, even if I lived in the same town as them, they still would not know. My parents are conservative Christians that believe in traditional family values...
  11. MsChristy

    Arguments against

    Obviously people will always think you are cheating on one of your partners or that you are being unfaithful. I always make it clear that all involved are aware of what is going on and ok with it. I am sure if I ever told my parents (which I am never going to do), they would tell me I am sinning.
  12. MsChristy

    Dealing with moving away

    Why do you have to move just because your father-in-law is moving?
  13. MsChristy

    Help me think this through please!

    If you have any hesitation or doubts about being intimate with someone, don't do it. You may feel more comfortable with the idea in the future, or it may be that it is best for her to remain only your husband's intimate partner
  14. MsChristy

    Discrimination

    What is your motivation for coming out? I would love to be more open, but I know my conservative, traditional family would disown me. I also work in a field that has a "morality clause" and while I would fight if there was ever issues, I would rather just not have work know. I do have friends...
  15. MsChristy

    Discrimination

    Many of my friends that are poly or involved in BDSM work for the federal government in some capacity. Many of them have had to do both polygraphs as well as background checks. if you are open and honest about multiple partners, BDSM, affairs, etc. the government does not care. If they find...
  16. MsChristy

    My wife moved out last night

    Regardless of what problems you and your wife are having, it might be a good idea to call a friend of hers that wouldn't mind checking in on her. If your wife has been suicidal in the past, making sure she is safe should be the priority.
  17. MsChristy

    Sex VS BDSM

    I have been involved with BDSM prior to being poly, and was actually doing BDSM stuff prior to even losing my virginity. I also engage in BDSM with both of my partners, and have had some very steamy scenes without sex, that I would certainly say are sexual. That being said, BDSM isn't always...
  18. MsChristy

    not poly-related...but i need help :,(

    You can't pretend nothing happened, cause something clearly did happen. I would, once everyone is calmed down, maybe the next day talk calmly about how you do not like the way he has been acting and treating you. Let him know that this stress on your relationship is not good for your health...
  19. MsChristy

    How long have you been polyamorous?

    I have been "open" for probably 4 years, and poly for 2 years. Was never looking to be poly, it was just something that happened
  20. MsChristy

    Questions about Fetlife

    I am active on fetlife and you will find all sorts on there. Everything from the 24/7 lifestyle kinksters that treat kink very seriously to those like yourself who are just exploring. You should not be intimidated by the people who seem super into BDSM, as there are just as many on there now a...
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