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There is no right answer. I know some people like to get comfortable first prior to meeting, while other friends of mine have chosen to meet someone new as soon as possible so as to see if there is a connection, and if not break things off sooner than later. I met my husband on-line and we...

It sounds like you should at least give it a try, since you admit your wife prefers face-to-face support and learning, as opposed to online like you do. Before I was poly, I was actively involved in the public BDSM communities in two different cities. (I had moved mid-involvement.) While I am...

It is hard to describe but the most simplistic way would be a V with myself as a hinge with my husband and partner. However, C and H are both very good friends and will hang out and even play together sexually. Both men have also expressed interest in attempting a MFM 3-way.

This article was in the Washingtonian Magazine a few months ago. http://www.washingtonian.com/articles/people/married-but-not-exclusive/

Have you told your husband and partner about your feelings? Even though it sounds like you know your feelings are irrational, it can be a big help to let them know you are working through these issues so that they can offer their support.

Sleepygirl, I am a nurse and when I went to nursing school my goal was to get my RN so I could go on and become a midwife, with a goal of focusing on home births/natural births. Unfortunately, I did my OB clinicals in nursing school at a inner city hospital with a large high risk labor and...

Has your wife ever even talked about desiring pregnancy with the guy? If she has not, and if she is actively trying to prevent pregnancy I think you went overboard. An accidental pregnancy is something no one can predict and if such an occurrence did happen, the outcomes would need to be...

If her husband always assumed any sort of poly relationship would involve another woman, it could take some mental adjusting on his part to be ok with her being with another man. I agree in the grand scheme of things it isn't that different, but I feel sometimes straight men seem to have...

I have never thought about poly specific birth needs, but I find this topic to be fascinating. While there are no children in my life right now, my husband and I would like to start trying next year, and my goal is to either have the delivery at home or at the local birth center. While unlike...

I read your intro thinking that I can't wait to read more posts by this girl. Which means your intro did it's job :)

It isn't really my thing, but if it is your thing fine. I am fine with sharing bites off of our plates, sips of the same drink, etc.

I have also used BDSM as a type of therapy on occasion. While I agree, having a cutting issue you are trying to get past and then being into knife play does seem like playing with fire, not all people that use bdsm for therapy are taking quite those levels of risk. I occasionally get very...

While I do trust H that wonders if I was his primary would he be keeping secrets from me. Granted, we tell each other everything, and I know this is the first big secret he has kept from her, but still. To me, a big part of a poly/open relationship is open and honest communication. I feel that...

You did indeed in your last sentence when you said that you have "read other threads on here about STDs." I just was unclear by that if you were insinuating that HSV was also an STD. It is unfortunate, but anyone that is having recurrent mouth sores or recurrent lesions elsewhere should be...

You are using the terms STD and HSV 1& 2 interchangeably, but the only place you mentioned her having a lesion ever was on her face/lip area. If that is indeed the case, then yes, they should be careful of kissing and of her giving him oral without protection when she has an outbreak...

While I knew A and H both prior to H and I becoming involved, and used to be good friends with both of them when we all lived in the same area, I am much closer to H now. Even A admits that our friendship has drifted since I moved and since she has moved on and developed other local friends...

My partner H was due to visit last weekend (we do long distance) with his other partner, A. A day before they were due to visit, he called to tell me that due to problems he and A have been having with their relationship, she had asked him to avoid doing anything sexual at all with me, so that...

While there are many people in the BDSM communities that play without knowing each other very well, often it is more thought out than say just a casual sex night. Even if two people interested in BDSM are only planning on playing once, there is often a good deal of negotiation that goes into a...

Congratulations. Sounds like things are coming along :)

I don't think there are many areas of the country where being poly isn't frowned upon. You can try online sites such as Ok Cupid to find someone. However, if you are newly getting involved with poly you may want to read up on it first so you will be better prepared since this sounds like...