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So, a little bit of time has passed since I was here last with this question. With the jokes, they were actually always in my favor and never negative. In a way I think they have opened the dialogue up a little bit. I have talked to my boyfriend and my husband a little bit more about the...

interesting... I'm on a phone so forgive my typing or brevity.. I agree with inyourendo about feeling a little trapped ... But not in a terrible way.. In a way that reminds me of monogamy and conflicts with my values. As for my values.. I cannot do sexual relationships at all that do not...

I am in a poly situation (I have a husband - 4 years, and a boyfriend - 2 years) and neither of them have dated anyone else. There's been mild attempts like phone numbers exchanged and group hangouts (for my husband... not at all my boyfriend).. My boyfriend I'd say is probably better suited...

off topic Hey I know this is off topic but I couldn't help but think you sound so much like my husband .... I actually read what you wrote to him and he said this guy sounds awesome! I appreciated your geek moment... I think you will be strong and survive the time away from your sweetie by...

a long time has passed I never really updated what happened here but basically I stopped making an effort and didn't talk to him anymore. If he texted me I would reply ... but I never iniated anything. He also started drifting away out of the routine of hanging out... we hardly ever saw each...

Update Several Months Later... So it's been a long time since I posted about this situation... He went to japan to visit her about 2 weeks after my last post and he had a really good time there... however they talked about how feasible it would be to see each other again and decided they might...

Hmm, definitely a lot to think about - but I am pretty sure that as long as he's in the relationship, I am content being friends, and as of now, I see no reason to tell him I am poly or see the potential to be more. I actually look forward to a long friendship between us and if he magically is...

I believe in honesty as the best policy... and so far I've definitely explained a lot of my life and he has to know I am in some kind of open relationship... he also knows my values and ethics pretty plainly ... that I deeply care for people and make an intellectual relationship a priority above...

Hey, it's been about a year since I've come here... A year ago my husband and I accepted and discovered that we believe in polyamorous relationships - and I had some trouble because I fell for someone who ended up struggling with the idea I was married and he couldn't handle the lifestyle I...

So I wanted to do a little follow up on this.. maybe someone can offer their opinion as to whats going on with him. but if not its alright. So i gave him a letter (posted above) asking to be just friends, but very good friends that really strive to make an effort to be supportive happy...

I wrote a letter up. I plan on having him read it with me. I could I suppose just talk to him, but I really like having a letter. It just completely makes it easier. I can open up entirely and not forget something - he can ask me any questions, has the potential to respond - by either talking...

I think I could have been "friends" and channeled my love a little differently than the romantic way I felt for him at first... But lately I am thinking why? See the man that I started seeing, the man that I fell for was just completely different than the man that I have before me today. He...

I am so bummed that my love interest does not want to just enjoy time together.. and let us hang out and have feelings the same way. :( But on a bright side, I told one of my good friends about my situation and she was actually somewhat interested in still meeting this guy and perhaps...

Well I come to you now... to say that he's acting strange maybe every other time I see him. Some days, he wants to cuddle and hang around me with all the looks and hints of affection. Other times he's not very interested in having "too much fun" and often retreats to things he's comfortable...

So I really enjoyed the shel silverstein post. Also the statement about the pointlessness of worrying about the future. Since my last post, I decided to take a little bit of time away from him. Not that much really, but we were spending a lot of time together. So we waited 5 days before we saw...

When you said enjoyed your time together four months was he showing his feelings? Because mine is so guarded lately that he's acting differently. He still wants to hangout but he has issues showing affection or interest. Even if we hang out all day and not in public he's holding back a lot and...

Let me start by saying I am glad I posted. This is a good community of people that can relate to this experience and have given me a lot insight. I don't feel so crazy for being confused about this situation. So there's been a new development in the mix. I really love this guy and want him to...

I forgot to add that I feel the age thing is harder being so young for a few reasons. One is that while I am still a student and starting out so new in life, the support of my parents is important. Coming out to them might mean losing the relationships I have with them. Am not saying this...

. Okay, so I may need to clarify that I am all for enjoying the moment. I see that in typical monogamous relationships there's a road map of marriage and kids. In poly situations there definitely is no road map. I like the idea of letting things naturally transition to whatever may take course...

Hi, I've debated about actually signing up and writing anything here. But I have found myself on Google and searching for advice and just interesting things to learn about polyamory, especially as it pertains to my situation. I read a lot of things written by mono and redpepper.. But I really...