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As someone who has dealt with addicts in the past... don't believe it. There's a "joke" in Al Anon (basically, AA for the family, if you're not familiar with it.): How can you tell when an addict is lying? Their mouth is moving! Seriously though, never trust someone willing to keep that in...

So I've been here a while, posted in Poly Relationships a few times, but I feel like I need a more... bloggy style thing. So here has been my journey through poly thus far. My first few posts can be found here and here. That brings me up to more recent history. I made a choice to cut ties...

So my metamour and my husband came out to her mother last night. It... did not go well. Her mother has, to put it bluntly, flipped her shit. She's been calling her daughter names, whipping the whole "you're going to hell" thing, even calling family so they'll dogpile as well. Mind you, the...

I don't think anyone else commented on your parenthetical here, and if they did (Galagirl usually covers EVERYTHING. ;) So if I'm repeating her, I'm sorry.) Changing rules doesn't make them pointless. One of the most important parts of learning to practice poly is being willing to change...

I'm not "out". With that said, I refuse to lie. I am not ready to have the conversation, but if someone asks? We tell them. I refuse to lie about someone; the people I'm with deserve better respect than that. I'm not going to shove them down under the dashboard when someone rides by. How does...

And let me add: If he won't go see a counselor with you? GO ALONE.

I am so sorry to hear that. It sucks. I do hope he will make the kids a priority, but the important thing right now is to take care of YOU. We're here for you..

So I finally have a second date with someone I'm actually interested in, with the potential for future relationship status. He's not poly, but he's asked LOTs of questions about it, and is open minded and intrigued. He wants to meet my husband, eventually, and he has kids he'd like me to meet...

I don't understand your investment in making people define themselves so YOU can understand it. You clearly have an agenda here. Spit it OUT. What is your point? What is your goal here? Are you expecting "certain people" to stop using a term you don't feel they should? Are you trying to...

I'd be happy to do that, but honestly, I'm not the bar type; never have been. I don't mind going, but I have small kids, and not a lot of money, neither of which are conducive to bars. Perhaps. It's too early to tell. However, the ones he's had feelings for seem to have genuinely returned...

Thought this would make you guys smile.

One thing to remember is that living life without a sibling is NOT a prison sentence. Really. Having a child for the sake of "giving them a sibling" isn't wise. I'm not going to say that they wouldn't enjoy it, but I grew up an only child, and don't feel I missed out on anything at all. Now, I...

I know, I can't force this, and if it's not going to happen, it's not. I do feel the need to vent, though. My husband has the devil's own luck when it comes to relationships. Less than a month after breaking up with his last girlfriend, he's already found someone he's smitten with. It's...

Polyamory is the same. It doesn't have anything to do with how many partners you have. Just that you are capable of desiring more than one at the same time.

Psst... just spam. No need to get bent out of shape. It happens on ALL forums.

Why on earth would you expect someone engrossed in something interesting to read your mind and just know you wanted attention? It sucks when they do that; I know, my hubby does it all the time (the last two weeks of NRE obsession has made it especially bad lately.) You know what I did? I...

Polyamory IS different for everyone. While I practice what my husband and I often call "true" polyamory, where we can date, love, and see as many people in as many ways as we like, not everyone wants that. Why is YOUR label more valid than someone else's? So someone else isn't interested in...

I'm honestly not a big fan of "wait and see." Your feelings are valid, and you have every right to say "Hey, things aren't like they were, what's up?" and not be accused of being clingy. Communication is key for any relationship, but doubly so for a poly relationship. Ask him what's up...

I have. I'll sometimes respond to the dumbasses because they're entertaining. This guy though? Just obnoxious.

Don't forget, too, that familiarity makes for the best sex. Even if I find a guy I like who has great technique, or a penis that fits better, my husband knows me the best because we've been together for 16 years... he knows ALL the buttons!