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You know, that is actually probably what I need. This is a kid issue. Not a how-much-I-love-and-enjoy my partners issue. I think bridging that might help us all.

I think that was a pretty good clarification. I'd like to have the option to pursue plan B, while doing plan A, because plan A doesn't seem to be working without having plan B as an option which I could take of and when I felt like it, but plan A is pretty good for me. No wonders partners feel...

I sound so reasonable when you put it that way! I think I'm seeing emotion, and thinking I must have done something wrong on the one hand, and if I didn't, my partners are wrong on the other. But life doesn't work like that - I have the right to change my mind about the future, and they have a...

To add- I asked for the freedom to move our expected weekly individual dates to biweekly, keeping our together triad time, and adding in extra individual time where I can. Or mentioned that as a possible solution. That, I think, was the sucky bit from their perspective.

My partners and I have been talking future, and we've all come to the conclusion merging households is not practical in any kind of near-term or mid- range future. I've been quietly heartbroken about this, and have been checking in to make sure my assumptions about what they think/ want are...

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On a recent post, someone- perhaps galagirl- mentioned three types of models of openness. Two were family style and free agent. Could someone explain the theory?

It's not the dates themselves, it's processing before and after. Because we're newly dating, and there are established outside but less frequent partners that they began dating slightly before me, we're simultaneously getting to know each other, and springing me into both polyamory and non-...

I'm wondering how long it takes to adjust enough that it stops being a life-interfering event needing intense internal processing when a partner goes out on a date. I know this is a ymmv question, but what is a good ballpark range if it's going to happen? Answers welcomed either in time, or...

I'm new here, and fairly new to poly. I've been in an open poly triad for about 4.5 months now. I am absolutely loving my triad- I'm with two amazing people in all senses of the word. Each of my partners dates someone else, one long-distance, one fairly regularly but at a much lower level of...

I'm not sure I'm there yet , but I'm working on having my partners' going off being a good experience, and a lot of it has to do with looking at what I need while it is going on. What information do you need from your partner before and after about what is likely to/did go on? Do you need them...