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Thank you guys. I've got the sites that you guys have given me, and I have skimmed over them, to read more in depth when I get a moment to myself (summer vacation, please school, start!!) so that I can come up with a list of questions. I think the thing that I need to improve upon is that I...

I do understand where you are coming from. And I thank you for your opinions. I do not do drugs because I choose not to, not because I've been shielded from it. So I'm thinking that my mother found a decent way. I'd rather my kids experience it in safety and with knowledge if they ever decided...

EXACTLY. thank you. Thats why I said, just be honest with her and go from there and build it according to your dual needs. Because now everything is soured for me because of how he went about it. Also, honey, I knew it was bullshit, hence the quote marks. :p That is what this person needs to...

i personally don't use drugs. I've done them once or twice, and thought, meh. They were not a problem if he did them every once in a great while, while he was out camping with friends, etc. I do not condone doing them around my children and nothing has ever been done around my children...

coming from the wife of a person similar to you, honesty is the most. important. thing. ever. I cannot stress this enough. My husband chose to lie to me while being in another relationship to "protect me", and it has been... bad. Give your wife honesty. sit down with her and say "Hey, this is...

pardon, I think i gave the impression that he does it all the time. He uses it recreationally, when he's out with his friends. and i think I worded it wrong up top. drugs helped to change him, but they were only a part of it. Not "drugs made him an entirely different person", but I think that it...

Haha, this made my morning! Thank you. I still have a lot of growing myself to do. I should probably add to the blog my own faults, especially as I've accepted my, albeit admittedly small, part of the problem. I am a very disorganized person. I am horrible at cleaning. I was never, ever meant to...

GG, thank you so much. *hugs* It's sad to hear this from other people, but at the same time, easier. I'm very glad I came on here. I will also be having my husband read this, so that he can ask these questions of himself as well. Also, can't believe you read the whole thing, haha. It kind of...

He's not the only one who needs to grow. I'm still trying myself. I don't think anyone is ever done "growing up." What I'm so frustrated by, is the way he changed and how swiftly. These issues have come on in the last two years. Before that, there was no hint of this. Two years ago, though, he...

Yeah, I know. It's been making me want to beat my head against a brick wall. Him and I have both made mistakes in being totally honest with each other, and have learned to regret it. Or so I thought. And I believe that a lot of these... issues of his stem from an extreme lack of self confidence...

I'll talk to him about it. He's actually on this forum too, I found out today. I was doing research and this was the first forum to pop up on google when I typed in "poly amorous forum", so... yeah. lol. But I'll take a look at it too. It just seems ludicrous that he declares himself to be this...

That's why I've come here, because whenever I ask questions, he gives me the run around, or spouts out this... pseudo spiritual stuff that leaves me opened mouth. Which makes me think I'm not asking the right questions, and he's not quite getting the point of being a true poly. Thank you all for...

Thank you, so much, GG, for pointing out about the bareback-ed-ness! I had asked him back when he first came clean, if they had been intimate, so that I could get tested, as we go bareback since I have an IUD (sorry, if tmi, lol), and he said they hadn't. Then after finally telling me, he claims...

Well, as I mentioned in my introduction, I'm here for answers and help. My husband recently admitted to me, after a lot of bull****, that he thought that he was polyamorous, and had been looking on sites for help. I entered research mode and went on here, seeing as how it was one of the first...

Thank you very much. The information you have given me and the information that I know will come, along with similar experiences will definitely be a big help. Yeah, it was very hard. We were having troubles and he basically just gave up and looked for an equally miserable person to lean on. He...

Hi guys. A little bit about me and my situation. I'm 24 with three kids (yeah...) been married to my husband for 6 years now. He recently had an affair and after it blew up in our faces, decided to come out and tell me that he felt like he wanted to be poly-amorous. I have no qualms about...