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My name's Matt, and if I'm dressed, chances are I'm wearing a checked shirt:)

The Justin Bonomo interview is spot-on - he does a great job of talking about polyamory and how it works. I like too that the interviewer has a sensible conversation with him, rather than going all "Ewww!" as sometimes happens.

Thanks for your kind words, shovelandhoe, and you're very welcome. Best of luck to you!

Wow! I used this as an example because I genuinely thought no-one would ever be so crass as to make this argument. Just shows how wrong you can be:(

First of all, shovelandhoe, congratulations on your sobriety. I've been sober now for 15 years and I still remember how hard the first couple of years were. In my case, I was using booze to mask painful feelings. Looking at it now, it was like there was a huge dumpster truck following me around...

Sorry to learn you've received this bad news, River. You have my sympathy. I remember a few years back my straight brother being amazed that there was such a thing as an open marriage and that a couple he knew had one. As a gay man, where open relationships are nothing unusual, I was amazed at...

I'm a fortysomething gay man. For me, kissing is an essential part of sexual intimacy whether that's in a relationship, an FWB situation or a casual hookup. In my experience (there's a fair amount of it - I used to be what is now termed "socially generous"), guys that won't kiss during sex...

Perhaps not so much weird as surprising (to me) A few years ago, there was a TV show in the UK called "The Sex Inspectors" in which couples unhappy with their sex life could receive help from a pair of experts. Part of the process was that the couple's house would be fitted with cameras so the...

Given that you say she was "never OK with it" but was willing to give lipservice to the idea to get you to back off, I think it's very unlikely you're ever going to get her agreement for the kind of arrangement you want, no matter how understanding or patient you have been with her. If you stay...

Sorry to hear you're in this dilemma, Xftmfz. Seems to me that the first thing to do, as others on this thread have suggested, is to reopen discussions with your wife about what you want and see if there is a way forward that works for both of you. If this isn't possible, then the options are...

I think this completely nails it. I broke up from someone because he was more interested in his own stuff than our relationship. We then got back together which was great at the start, but then of course nothing had changed, so it was back to Splitsville for us. I'm much older and uglier now...

I guess I'm an E6 on this - I've no doubt about the 6 part but the letter kinda varies - some relationships of mine have included elements other than sex and others haven't. I wouldn't say either kind was better or worse than the other, merely different. These kind of categorisations remind me...

Thanks for the welcome, Kevin T. I've only been a member of this forum about 12 hours and already I've learnt so much. Having read a bit of the Solopoly blog, I think that label applies to me. I'd like to be romantically/sexually involved with one or possibly more guys, but I don't think I'm...

I'm a 40-something gay man living in London, UK. I was in a happy sexually open relationship for nearly 4 years, which ended because my partner died suddenly. After nearly 11 years as a single man (with a few brief flings over the years), I've become increasingly fascinated by the idea of...