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Thank you for your support. I have been talking to both my wife and her boyfriend, still weird to say, and they have apologized for not really thinking of me and are trying to make it better. He wants to visit us here and meet our kids and me and that is a great start. Plus he has finally warmed...

Unfortunately when this all began we were having some marital problems and when some of our friends learned she cheated they got rather venomous. They told me all sorts of things I should do, take the kids, divorce. Not one tried to listen to her and understand the stuff she was going through...

Thank you very much. That is a great article. I have sent it to my wife. And I will greatly take that hug. I am so lonely right now even internet hugs feel great.

i have to do my best to stay optimistic for when she gets back from her trip on thursday. I hope she will truly still love me and want to be with me. and not neglect me like i fear. I don'tlike dealing with all this. Does it ever get easier?

Right now it is knowing that she will be sleeping with him again tonight. i could not fall asleep last night because my mind showed me all sorts of hurtful things. To make it worse she is trying new things with him. Stuff I have asked for and she made me feel horrible about it. Now all of a...

That is encouraging to hear. I am truly hoping she does not neglect me in the process. She seems to be wanting to listen. I just have to learn to master these feelings of comparison. Fear of abandonment. Wondering if she will want him more than me. That sort of stuff

She says she will do all she can to help and reassure me but this is after the fact. She got mad, ignored my feelings, and went to see him anyway. There were a lot of things to make me think their relationship was only about sex and the fact that she cheated to have phone sex does not help. Nor...

this is one of my fears that i am working on.

She is trying to work on loving me. To actively listen and be understanding with how I feel. She has a tendency to take what I am feeling and go the extreme with it and say all sorts of things to make me feel like I cannot speak. At times I want to cry and she resents me for it. She is getting...

I am not doing well at all this morning. My mind is playing all sorts of mean things on my about what she is doing with this guy. I want to understand and be in a good headspace. I feel I was not given enough time. When I asked her for more time to get used to the idea of her being sexual she...

lol, that is putting it mildly. I can't even think of how to explain all this to my friends. They wanted to condemn my wife for her learning about herself and could not open their minds to at least try to understand. I stood by her though and our love has actually gotten much stronger in the...

Just bought it. Thank you for the advice. My wife and I had been thinking about it for a bit. What better time to read and learn about how to handle this stuff better than while my wife has gone to spend a few days with her boyfriend. Wow that feels weird to say.

501 I have thought about that and have tried to reestablish trust by taking her at her word. Again. She has acknowledged what she did and listened and empathized. Then I showed her some articles from the more than two website and she saw the value in them and put some of the methods to use...

This is how I felt. Very fast, especially for something new. Hopefully it turns out okay. But yes, I believe friendship is very important if there is the possibility of this guy being in our lives for a while and he meeting our children. My wife gets surprised when I emotional about the whole...

The new person is her new boyfriend. Since he and my wife have a relationship, the three of us do. I did not ask him into my life and he was kind of forced upon me. But I do not hate him and am hoping we can get along.

It happened over the course of about three months. I saw signs that my wife was a bit interested in this sort of thing very early on into our relationship but stayed quiet because her whole life she had certain expectations crammed down her throat by her father, this later caused some problems...

Well let me first state I am mono, not poly. But I am very open-minded. My wife on the other hand has recently discovered that she may be poly. I say may because she has just started this journey and who knows what may happen, you know? How it started is a very long story, but the bare bones...