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Once again thank you for the well thought out and very helpful response. And I'm a hugger so never really get tired of hugs, lol. I have been very clear that it's not the individual lie that was the big problem (although obviously that is a problem) but the lying and manipulation, the lack of...

Thank you NY Cindie, MrFarFromRight and everyone else who's expressed concern for my wellbeing and that of my daughters. It's really very helpful. As far as how Gamer deals with this, I'm honestly not sure what he'll think of it all and am just so nervous to tell him for reasons I can't quite...

Yes, I can see that exact pattern happening if I'm not careful. I expect that I'll have to have this conversation several times over, did even several times last night after he made promises and expected me to back down and forgive right away (admittedly because that's what happened in the...

Thank you again, I responded to your PM but think it might be taking awhile to go through maybe? I will read that story thank you and share it with my older daughter. Pseudonyms are a good idea. We'll call my older daughter...JediGirl (loves Star Wars so why not) and my 4 year old....Dragon...

Oh, and I'm not a "the marriage vow is sacred" type of person really. We got married largely because I was pregnant with our first daughter and needed health insurance which I could get through his job at the time if we were married. I did love him at that point so that did play into it too...

Here's your hug MrFarFromRight. :) *hug* Thank you very much for all the advice. I'm definitely going to see if my library has that book, failing that it looks like I can just order a copy on Amazon for a couple bucks used so will be checking it out. Mechanic and I ended up really having it...

Thank you opalescent. Mechanic is the father of both of my daughters, yes. I will be honest and say that I have feared for awhile that it may come to me having to leave him but always think that this time will be different, this will be the time he gets his act together. I think I am...

Both of my kids are girls. :) My 9 year old actually loves fairy tales and fantasy books. This definitely sounds like something she'd be interested in. I did some poking around on the website just now and will do some more shortly. I'm sure she'll love those stories from what I've read so...

I hadn't heard of that book before, no. So he wants to be caught? To what end? I'm a bit baffled thinking about that, I guess I just don't understand. Thank you, I've considered going to counseling on my own. I've asked him to start therapy in the past and he says he's talking with an...

Thank you for the validation. It's exhausting second guessing myself constantly and I'm tired of it bleeding through into other relationships that would otherwise be healthy. You're absolutely right that I shouldn't put up with it.

They are 9 and (almost) 4.

Because things are still so new I'm always willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and am trying to be especially patient while he gets used to things. I'm not planning for anything more to happen on Friday other than the coffee and walk that we've planned, I want to take relationship...

Haha, yeah, I wouldn't share this thread with her, though she does know about poly and roughly where things are with that in my life. I will copy and paste your comments to her. :D Promise!

I'll be off and on all day most likely. :D Dealing with kids will do that to a person, lol.

So...I thought things were improving with Mechanic but now I'm not so sure. *frustrated sigh* Last night he got home from his date and after cuddling for a bit he wanted to know if I was planning on sleeping with New Guy on Friday when we go out, and said that he didn't think it would be a...

Yes, they were wanting to give me just enough hours to be under what would require full time status with benefits and overtime but still basically full time. So I wouldn't have even benefited from it that much. I was also promised a pay raise and supervisory training within a week or two of...

So...big life thing...I had to resign from my museum job. There's some mixed feelings about this, I did like the work and hate letting people down but the super long hours (due to increase to even more!) were taking a toll on home life and time with the kids especially, I'd get home and only...

So...I went on that date last night. It went well, we both seemed to have fun and said that we hope to do it again. Just did coffee, a walk and then wandered about a gift shop for a bit. Lots of laughs, he's got a great sense of humor. I was asked back to his apartment. But wasn't totally...

I actually know very little Spanish. :) Thank you for sharing those lyrics all the same though, I love that my user name can be interpreted partially that way! Funny how things work out. I'm a huge history geek and Amarna is the site established by Akhenaten (my favorite pharaoh) as his new...

Thank you for all the kind words! I'm so good at worrying I should make it a career, lol, I've found myself worrying about how much I worry before. :) Something I need to self improve on still I think. You're absolutely right about the NRE and it's been something that I've tried to be very...