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You sound like a "people pleaser". Google it, there has been a lot written about this all too common personality type. Your conclusion that her neglect must somehow be something you conjured up in your mind or is understandable given her problems with her other lovers is very telling.

Moving from a hetero mono marriage to an open marriage is difficult because often the wife will have far more opportunities to form romantic/sexual connections than the husband. The imbalance causes an already difficult transition to be much harder.

Jealousy and the emotional difficulty of managing multiple partners are reasons I feel that keep people from trying poly. In the words of "Polysecure" author Jessiac Fern - "It is an unstable relationship style".

Throughout most of my life (late 60s, married, cis, het man) I felt invisible to women. For whatever reason, despite my attempts to connect, women never paid much attention to me or returned my flirtations. Finally, I met a woman and we really clicked on so many different levels. She made me...