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“Some humans would do anything to see if it was possible to do it. If you put a large switch in some cave somewhere, with a sign on it saying 'End-of-the-World Switch. PLEASE DO NOT TOUCH', the paint wouldn't even have time to dry.” -Sir Terry Pratchett, Thief of Time

Melody has had a double-file line of potential partners waiting almost since Day 1, whether for sex or for relationships. She just had to do the online equivalent of wearing a sign that read "Married, available, submissive masochist," and the world was her oyster. Meanwhile, the opposite has...

What about dating a bi woman who is with a man implies that you have to interact with the man at all? It seems like you're operating under the assumption that being with a woman means you have to be with (in any sense) someone else she's dating, but it doesn't have to be a triad to be a healthy...

We've talked about it, and she's making an effort to maintain some kind of contact whenever we're in public together or in the car. It's helping, I think. I doubt I'd be as fixated on the lack of sex if the nonsexual touch was more consistent. I've been seeking other partners (other...

I'm saying I don't think six months without sex would hit as hard emotionally if we were still physically intimate in other ways. I would probably interpret it as a temporary issue if that were the case. She doesn't know why it's happening, which frustrates her (as a naturally analytical mind)...

My wife and I are going on two and a half years of open-ness, with the last eight months or so being full poly. We opened up because she had always been curious about kink, and dove right in once the door was open. Our sex life has never been phenomenal, especially since she suffers from PCOS...

True, but I'm not sure it actually clicked. As part of the "final questions" segment of the session, she sincerely asked Melody if she would consider closing back up.

UPDATE. Codependency confirmed, as a result of child abuse (the therapist basically diagnosed my dad with narcissistic personality disorder in absentia). Our next session is in two weeks, and in the meantime I have homework: brainstorming how I can use the nights my wife is with her boyfriend...

Thanks to everyone for the feedback. Codependency definitely appears to be at least a large part of the issue, after even a brief bit of research into it. Probably the biggest red flag indicating codependency is that I haven't felt like I had the right to say NO on way too many occasions, at...

First, a bit of background. In the three years my wife and I dated prior to getting engaged, we experienced major toxicity from both our families. Hers shared prescription drugs, and the addictions which came with them. Mine tried to force their religion on people, then bathed in an ocean of...

UPDATE: By mutual agreement, Melody's boyfriend will no longer be coming over while I'm here, and outings will be separate for the foreseeable future. Also, my health insurance provides 6 free therapy sessions per year, per issue, so I've scheduled an initial appointment with a therapist who...

Thanks for the feedback, everyone. My wife was aware of my past abuse, but neither of us really knew how deep it went or how much of an effect it had had on me until recently. Mostly because neither of us really have any male friends, so until her current boyfriend we hadn't been required to...

First, a bit of background. I was verbally abused by my father on a daily basis when I was a child. He was an unpredictable powder-keg, singing me to sleep one day, screaming at me for not wanting him to read to me (I had an above-average reading comprehension almost from day 1) the next. As a...

Hey everybody! My wife and I have been together for about ten years, and we've been open for the last two. Hoping to get some advice and read other people's experiences in poly.