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This. If it's not working for you and she isn't making an attempt to make it work, this is what's left. It reallyreally sucks, yet that's what it is.

I don't think it matters how common it is or isn't. The real question is whether or not it works for those involved.

That is entirely his problem. Seriously. Let him solve it.

I have to say this came quite close to garnering an award for flaming or trolling. I've altered the formatting so that it isn't in boldface and will allow it to remain in place. In the future, I'll suggest avoiding making comments that strongly imply other folks are bad parents or the like...

You have two partners and you want to hold him to an empty promise for "one at a time" made when he had none? You seem to want to decide a hell of a lot for him, instead of supporting him in the process of him deciding what he wants and what he will do.

Why don't you try the closeness of being polyamorous with multiple partners? I enjoy just as much intimacy with my wife when I have another partner as I did when it was just the two of us without any other partners. I also enjoy that deep intimacy with my bestie (with whom I'm in love and not...

eHarmony doesn't want polyfolk on their site. It's in the terms of use, even (used to be, anyway), that they only want single, mono users. OKCupid is the best site for finding polyfolk, it appears. And most of the ladies don't look like Hooters girls--not that such matters to a great many...

I'd say you have to find some space in which to grieve the end of the relationship with Ted, first--and that means away from other love interests. It's not surprising that Craig is willing to provide support; the support you need, however, is time and space away from that relationship to work...

He raped you. That IS evil.

This bears repeating. I text both of my partners and my bestie daily. If I don't hear from one of them for a day, it's no big deal. Even if they're traveling or ill or really busy, they do make an effort to check in and say so, so it's rare to go a day without hearing something. My wife and...

No need to apologize. And the winky was a clue that I do understand how new you are to all of this...which is why I offered some advice on how to proceed in the future. It may have come down to something as simple as her being really shallow and not liking what she saw in the nude shots. If...

Wait...what? Pix or it didn't happen!

You met her and within two weeks sent nudes about which you're obviously uncomfortable and arranged a date? And you're surprised she dropped out of contact? You're new to this, aren't you? ;) I'd say it was too much too quickly and she's overwhelmed. It could certainly be a family emergency of...

Seems to me that your gf spends lots of time making her issues your issues--and you let her. It appears the most manipulation is coming from your gf. Is that something you're comfortable with on a long-term basis?

That can be changed. Ten Days to Self Esteem, by Burns.

It appears to be an excuse. She hasn't gotten a boyfriend, she simply spoke to her desire to be involved with other people. Mentioning such a desire does *not* warrant breaking up immediately for any reasonable person. Can you say "gross overreaction"? If he's so committed to the marriage...

Why are you still together? Srsly. It sounds to me like neither one of you are ready for a serious relationship, either mono or poly. It may work best for you if you split and each attend to your own issues. Once you've got a handle on those, then you'll have a chance of working out your joint...

Did you call him on the mocking tone and comment? Until you take full responsibility for yourself and speak truth, I expect you're going to have problems. Lying about what you want isn't going to do *anybody* any good.

If you weren't planning on having a child and aren't certain you do want one, it is not a good idea to have one. Here's the thing: in many jurisdictions, if you act as if you are the parent and the child is yours, you legally become responsible for the child. If you and your wife break up in the...

So you treat your husband as if he's less than your bf and wonder why you're having problems? Srsly? Sounds to me as if you're using your husband, though for what, I've no idea.