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How to best phrase this... Horseshit. Bollocks. Codswaddle. Talk to Dennis as often as you wish. Plan whatever you wish. Keep your partner in the loop and hash out things that need to be coordinated among the three of you. Expect your partner to do the same.

Links to poly resources--even commercial resources--are acceptable here. We want folks to know what poly resources are available. Repeated flogging of such links/resources would be problematic and require action; simple posting is not a problem. The brief version: non-poly commercial links bad...

I'm an old, fat guy and I average a couple of visitors a week on my OKC profile. I receive a new message at least once a month. I send a couple of messages out each month and get a response from one in five. Nobody who has contacted me has stated they find my handsome mug compelling--it's...

He can't report the possibility of sex until he knows there's a possibility of sex. There's absolutely nothing to report prior to that. Faulting him for not reporting what he didn't know seems quite silly to me. Srsly. I don't see anything hinky in this.

That comment I made earlier is actually the latest in a possible/budding relationship where I find it appropriate to discuss the matter. I typically will ask a lady to coffee or lunch just for company and to get to know her better to figure out if I might want to pursue a relationship. Those...

I imagine they're common at conferences because there are folks who attend the conferences who enjoy them. Not everything at any conference is going to appeal to everybody, and cuddle parties are no different. As for the folks posting here, those most likely to respond are those who have a...

I think it would be just as useful to ask why there are people who seem to think it's perfectly OK to try to lock somebody into an unchanging state--"we're married and for the rest of your life you can't change!" Seriously, does anybody sign on for a marriage expecting that they aren't going to...

Did you also ask him to refrain from talking to anybody aside from you? That's the only way that would have been consistent--if you asked him not to speak to people just because you thought he should do nothing except spectate at your experience. As it was, you simply asked him to not speak to...

Here's the thing: she is responsible for her own situation--that's part of being an adult. If she places herself in a situation where she is entirely dependent on somebody else for everything, then she has to be prepared for that to apply in all circumstances. If she doesn't want to be dependent...

Nope.

Well, that would be a gross misrepresentation. There are folks here involved in triads and I doubt you'd find anybody who seriously thinks triads never work. *Unicorn hunting* is usually a bad thing, for lots of reasons. There is a major difference between unicorn hunting and having a triad...

This does appear to properly belong on a different board, so I'm moving it.

We don't really have rules. We do have expectations that have been discussed, though those aren't rules. I view keeping Curly informed as necessity for scheduling. That's just a practical matter and really doesn't touch on polyamory, specifically. It's the same as if I'm scheduling going for...

A quick run down: If you're just fucking around, you have an open relationship. If you're fucking around with non-romantic friends, it's FWB--which is part of an open relationship. If you're engaged in building romantic relationships, it's poly. Note: you can do all of those at the same time...

That is perfectly fine in the personals section, as we've not been overrun with swinger ads (although I don't check those boards often). I'm wondering if I've missed threads on the discussion boards that most distinctly aren't about poly.

You, dear lady, are a booty call for him.

Has that popped up and I missed it? I can say I'd rule that one off topic and delete it. Please flag posts like that.

That strikes me as one of those oxymorons that people use in an attempt to get emotional lift of some sort for identifying as something they aren't. In this case, they have some emotional attachment for identifying as polyfi, only they don't actually *do* polyfi.

Nope. And, if I were, I'd likely offer the rejoinder that they'll probably eventually develop the capacity for true loving relationships when they meet "the Other One." Just wait and see.

Sounds to me like you need to meet more people and find some friends who aren't so inflexible.