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Approaching a potential partner is essentially the same, whether you're poly or mono. Dating is pretty much the same for any given approach to relationships. You are likely to give bad vibes by disclosing other relationships early on whether you're mono and dating more than one person or...

You don't make them do anything. If they are friends and truly respect you, they understand you make your own choices and will provide support even if they would make other choices. If they continue to disrespect you, they're not very good friends and you're better off without them.

I find it interesting to see a CUUPS chapter forming in Utah. Not wholly unexpected, as I know some Pagan folk in the state. Still of interest to see more openly Pagan folk amongst the Mormons.

I think it's quite clear that he's not available for a relationship of the sort that you want. You can choose to become his booty call and have no romance or just have no romance and maintain the friendship.

I fail to see how this is different than a boyfriend or spouse. I've never assumed I had much say in how any of my partners run their lives.

I don't have time to respond to the whole post point-by-point, so I'll pull a representative observation and respond to that. I believe the basic thrust of my response can be extended to the rest of the post. I think your analysis is far too shallow to be useful. It appears you're positing...

"...I sometimes I think there should be either a maturity test or a sanity test to pass before entering into poly relationships." I read this is a thread and it got me thinking. While there's no real way to test somebody to see if they're ready for relationships, in general, and poly...

What she's communicated quite clearly is that she has no respect for you. Your choices can can include standing up and demanding respect, filing for divorce, or taking whatever she dishes out. You decide.

The first sentence of the OP stated that the man involved made contact first.

I don't see it. The sturm und drang of adolescence generally lingers well into the 20s. If I see relationship flailing and failing of that sort with a 20-something, I write it off as general immaturity or lack of experience. Heck, flailing/failing at most anything at that age gets attributed to...

It very much does involve you. Any child he fathers places a legal and financial obligation on him that will affect you quite a bit. It will affect your scheduling and household budget. I have to wonder why you're tolerating his behavior. He already had unprotected sex with a previous partner...

Those legal contracts called "marriage" involve a whole lot of agreements. Without having marriage as a form of legal shorthand, all of the ties people have would have to be spelled out--the whole of survivorship, joint ownership, inheritance, powers of attorney, and so on and so forth. Marriage...

I don't lose patience so much as I just get worn out. Each tale of woe brings a bit of sadness with it and I can only absorb so much sadness before I feel overwhelmed. Between the empathetic pain, looking for wayward spam, and skimming for tone and snark, I find myself responding much less than...

No. Your suppositions are all grounded in monogamy, so I have to wonder why you're posting here. I have to say this smacks of trollery.

At this point, I suspect you're here for trollery. Should I get convinced of that, I'll escort you out. Just so you know.

I used polyfuckery to denote sport fucking, or just having sex partners to have sex. I used the term to refer to swinging without any thought that it might also apply to plain, old screwing around without regard to any form of ethical nonmonogamy. I simply used it to contrast with polyamory...

That is simply not true. It's now apparent that you have no idea what "gender" means.

There are so many things I see wrong with her statement. A minority endorses inclusion? She must be using an odd definition of inclusion, for anybody who has embraced the notion of entertaining the addition of another relationship at all is being inclusive. Inclusion is not limited to one...

This is the part that would have me headed for the door. She doesn't "let" you do anything. You choose how you will limit yourself for the benefit of your relationships. She can only choose what she does. And if the threesomes have been truly consensual, you have no reason to be any more...

So you were a normal teenager--why would you think that unusual? There is a difference between infatuation and love, yes. To consider that any infatuation is a sign of juvenile regression is just silly, however, as it's a very common stage in romantic relationships among people of any age. The...