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Again, thank you for your time, effort and thoughtfulness. It means more than I can express. When I talked about making a case I realized I was waiting for it to build to the point where it was big enough to be worth the risk to mention. You have helped me realize that taking the more...

WOW!!! I cannot thank you enough. You did an amazing job not only with your advice but with reframing my own thoughts. All of this has been helpful but helping me look at it in a mirror like that. There are really only 2 clarifications I wanted to make. She and I have only had one...

This is kind of where I was stuck. Without all the other stuff in the way I was feeling like she was using this "OVP" as a bit of a crutch to keep me on the mono side. I was really having some feelings about her having her cake and eating it too. I am seeing this through a new lense at the...

Thanks for that! I agree 100% about gender. In my own work on this I had to come to a place where I ignored gender as well. I am fine if one day she has interest in other males. She says she does not have interest in men but I know that has not always been the case. For me it's about being...

Not legal here. While the option has some logic and I know that it is legal, ethical and acceptable elsewhere. That being said, it carries a lot of stigma and association with human trafficking which my wife and I have substantial feelings about. With her, just about everything sounds like...

Thank you for that. Using the term advocate really resonated with me. I'm cool with giving it some time. I am not even sure what my end would look like. However, I feel like I do need to plant my flag in this and at least protect my own needs and freedom.

Yes that about sums it up. Sorry for the word vomit but had to get a lot out. The TLDR is that she wants to be able to see women but does not want me to. Her reasoning is that it's not the same because I am not bi. I truly do not think its about gender. At this point I am not really sure...

My wife (37 bi) and I (49 str) have been married 9 years. We are rock solid, ride or die, so not looking for anyone to tell me to get out. That won't happen. We were best friends first and she told me about her bi-sexuality well before we got in a relationship. I have always been...