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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    I have a suspicion that the whole proof of tubal ligation or some sort of birth control is because they got burned somewhere along the way. There was something the wife said the other night and then a look between them that made me go 'hunh'. The positive readback is appreciated. So, I will...
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    Entering the pool....

    Welcome and drink deep. Well, I had to write that once I saw your thread title. Robert Heinlein is a favorite author of mine and it's a phrase from his book "Stranger in a Strange Land". I hope that you both can find the people that can not just fill your needs but that you can help fill...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    It is just starting and for what it's worth, I know this is not going to be perfect and I don't have rose colored glasses on. And things do change. I came looking here looking to see if the thoughts I were having seemed viable and reasonable and if possible to learn about other secondary's...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    I apologize, but for me, it seemed you were bringing up a question that wasn't part of my original post. How far will it grow? Honestly, at this point in my life, I am not worried about that. I don't want to be a part of his life as far as everyday living with him, sharing pets, kids...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    I don't know how to answer that. I went into this with my checklist of needs and wants- and they had theirs which they have developed from past relationships that were failures or successes. It seems both of ours matched up pretty well. The relationship can grow. We have only known each...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    Well, the evening went rather well. First, it wasn't as I had envisoned - not like a job interview or a interrogation. It started with a nice dinner and a lot of casual conversation and sharing of life experiences. Getting to know one another. We discussed previous relationships and my dog and...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    Thank you for the input of some excellent questions. I did get the feeling that it was going to be almost like a job interview and it threw me off a bit but then I started thinking out how I would want to handle things if it was me and I can understand it a bit better. I don't know how I would...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    Just learned we are meeting tomorrow night. I appreciate the input and especially the reassurance that things seem to be starting off well and thoughts on how to handle the meeting. I will certainly be open to their suggestions and thanks to my reading here and of links from here, I have an...
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    Secondary and I think that's okay

    So here I am. Involved in a polyamorous relationship. I did an introduction in the other section but the basics are - I am a widow, I haven't been with anyone since hubby passed away. Hubby and I were sometime swingers but more interested in sort of just being with other couples and building...
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    Advice needed-anniversary envy

    That is a wonderful post. 38 years. Yay! And I love your sig.
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    A bit annoyed with old clumsy self. I have stubbed my pinky toe twice in two days. OUCH. It hurts to even walk on it let alone try and put a shoe or sandal on.
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    I will probably stop too, but it was fun to revisit. If only there were some messages that were genuine. "Hey baby, got a webcam?" :rolleyes: :rolleyes: I have not been to AFF but am on Fetlife - but for social events in the area.
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    Well this thread caused me to go back and update my OKC profile and look around. I had not been on there since 2012! I didn't even realize it had been that long! I updated photos - which was nice since that last time I was on there I have now lost 30 pounds. Yay me! I am not really actively...
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    Hello Hello!!

    My grandmom taught me that. She sat me down a couple days before the wedding and went thru a whole list of things. My granddad was just sitting there shaking his head and smiling.:)
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    Hello Hello!!

    Thank you Alananna - it is really something you can't imagine until you go thru it and I hope that you never have to. I am in the DC/Baltimore corridor. There are quite a few groups in the area and I have a very good friend that is very active - not as a poly but has taken me to parties and...
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    Movies that would have been better with a poly ending.

    Best. Thread. Evar! :) I don't have any suggestions (yet) but I am a movie lover so I may add to this thread soon. It has been fun to read and I especially love Casablanca and 2012. Oh wait, I do have one - "Move Over Darling" with Doris Day and James Garner which is a remake of "My Favorite...
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    Ever meet another poly in person?

    I learned one of my good friends and her husband are in a V. Not exactly the same as meeting someone but I hadn't known it till a few weeks ago when I was discussing some of my lifestyle choices with her. Looking back, I can see her being of the open mindedness to be poly.
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    Hello Hello!!

    Thank you for a kind welcome Kevin. My husband and I had a wonderfully open marriage with love, trust and respect as a basis. Those three things were very important. I will also add communication. If we had a disagreement, I would not let us go to bed mad. We would talk it out. Sometimes I know...
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    New Member finally posts

    Welcome. I am also of the older age - glad to see more of our generation around. Eugene OR was one of my choices to move when I sell my home here on the East coast.
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