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It seems thats a possibility. Hanging onto a thread of hope. As l dont have all the facts. I am hoping the psyche will be helpful. Appreciate your support. xo

Its like its up in the air, l am afraid l will be the one landing hard, it feels like he is deeply entangled. He wants to please everyone but l am the one at the end of the que. Lets see what Thursday brings. Thanks again. I am seeing my psychologist today, hope she can give me some insights...

on the friendships posts. Theres no category for Australia. Can one be created.

Move to Australia Gerry. And l will sign up..

Hi Ryan. If you ever decide to move to Australia. Id love to meet you. Why did you choose polyamory.

Hi Kevin, Yes, not directly bout once a week. declarations about reducing the time between the times we are apart. Maybe he is more romantic than practical. Ive recently felt the effect of fallout of his children life drama, his np meltdown bout her self esteem, his additional shifts, his own...

Perhaps he wont admit to wanting more. But l cant take anymore stress. I am seeing him this week. I will have to ask for that confirmation for that commitment to once a week. Yes he seems to be what l needed.

Love to meet like minded people for coffee & friendship.

I can appreciate the idea of meeting others who practising polyamory. As l live in Brisbane, and l am very new to poly. I have found a Bne Group but they only meet once a month. Do you use any of the dating aps. As l am wary as anyone can say they are on those aps. I am navigating this with a...

Thanks Kevin. It feels like he is stalling. Perhaps he cannot admit its not possible for him to meet my needs, he doesnt like giving up, he has taken more responsibilities around the house as well. If we meet on Thursday, & l am saying "if".. I will have to ask what he expects from me or l can...

Hi Kevin, l'd rather be in the same room to ask but at this point its not happening. Maybe a phone call. Though he says we have next week Thursday & Sunday. So do l sit tight. As l dont feel calm, going to see a therapist who specializes in polyamory. Thank you again. Its a pity this forum...

He keeps saying how important it is to set the once a week. Currently its all words. Last week was ok. This week family issue. Which came with legit reason. Now says next Wed is good. But now l am unsure. I dont know bout the veto. That puts me on the edge. But because the shifts have changed l...

Challenging yes. Getting him to read the skipping stuff will be a challenge too. Currently due to different attachment styles, his communication style doesnt match mine even though l have told him how anxious l become when l dont hear from regularly. Makes me sound like a broken record. Ive...

Hey Kevin As she is more polyexperienced, she has a strong influence, & l have been respectful towards her as have not established if she has veto. So how do broach a conversation re: becoming less tangled. As they work close around their Shiftwork, hectic household etc. Kile & l getting that...

Kevin, it does feel like he is consulting with her. I really adore him. & now there is more shift changes. I keep bringing in the idea of that once a week is vital. I have considered walking away. And yes l know l need him to normalize. Ive booked myself into a workshop on poly.

Kevin. What a monumental journey. I would like to be able to say that about my life one day..as my experience is proving to be a challenge, your advice is always supportive & practical. ❣️Warmest regards Tania (newbie)

Hi Kevin, I am getting a feeling Kile is fully entangled by NP. But what can l do or say to change it without becoming overmanipulating? Ask about detangling? It almost felt like it was flowing. What's the point of me reading the material if he isn't managing to do this too? I think he just...

Thanks, Mags. I don't mind being patient. And resources are helping. Kile's life has many layers and my life has its own challenges. We have potential. I like idea that it takes time for things to calm & settle. We have established the value of a consistent time. We will be talking about...

Kile & l have spoken, i told him that once a week is required to build a meaningful relationship. He said the fortnight was to start so he can work out his new job & shifts, to set the weekly get together. As l am giving the adjustment time, weve agreed to sustain our times apart with phones...

One polyfoot at a time. It feels there is more work in poly than monogomy. But l adore my polyguy. So l will put in the hard yards. Dive in with eyes open.