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Experimenting with high-dose NRE

I was in a monogamous relationship for 11 years with my poly partner before I was able to understand poly well enough to seriously consider it for myself. Being mono gave me an illusion of security through fidelity, and I swallowed it whole. It didn't stop me from feeling jealous or possessive...

Two entries in one day. I must be be inspired by something. What is it? I've been thinking lately about how Im not afraid anymore of falling in love with someone. It's not just that I know I will never ask for the bondage of co-ownership again. My future is destined to be a trail of broken...

I'm really excited about some new developments in my relationship with ... I'm not actually going to say whom. Because I'm pretty sure she'll be reading this, and I don't want her to feel like I'm putting her in the spotlight here. She knows who she is, and I think she knows exactly the...

Would going to the festival feel like work, or could it be a recharging event for you? Even if you don't find the energy to attend, I'm sure you'll find some quality time with someone anyway.

It's not about the time. It's about the moments. I've come to accept that I have an artist's temperament. I tried to deny it, because while I do see myself as an artist, the temperament seemed too cliche. I think there's some irony in that. I tend to be moody and manic when I'm speaking from...

Yeah, I mash those together sometimes. They are very similar. Perhaps I do feel some envy, because I don't feel like I have the chance to talk to her lately, while she has all the time in the world for Pete. But I think I'm doing the right thing by focusing on how this lack of attention makes me...

That was an important validation for me. Thank you! As for her relationship with Pete, it's not just a romantic tryst. He's really helping her work through her trauma responses and emotional scars, and I don't want to get in the way of that. She needs it. I don't think she believed me when I...

You're right. Forward thinking is going to better for me right now than getting stuck on second guessing my actions. I expressed how I felt, and I got a bad reaction. Now I have all these feelings that I'm trying to deal with. I hope Ms Fisher can recognize that I'm really trying to do this...

Okay, early blog today. I'm feeling hurt right now over an exchange between Ms Fisher and me this morning. I'm going to talk about it, and I want to acknowledge right up front that all you are hearing is my perspective. I might miss something important, and not know that I'm not giving the whole...

Thank you. My morning was rough, and I'm about to blog about it. I needed that encouragement.

Thank you for that, Evie! That was on point! I read that whole article and realized that a lot of my needs are more valid than I was giving them credit for. I got the notification for the above reply while writing a piece on feeling like an attention whore. I think I'm being too hard on myself...

I didn't realize how much I thrive on attention and praise. I got a lot of it from my family growing up. I am overly sensitive of criticism, though I really believe that I'm capable of welcoming constructive criticism. I've been leaning on you guys pretty hard for that attention fix lately, and...

Melancholy. Is that the right word? I have to admit, I don't always know the correct definition of the words I use. I decided as a child that honestly was the only way worth saying anything. I also never had a great memory, for most things. I find it easiest to remember things I understand. I am...

That's the kind of suggestion I was looking for, thanks! Not that I'm going to just start submitting stuff to Cosmo, but now I have something to study up on. What kind of articles are written in my style? Where else are those authors published? Stuff like that. As for building a reader base, I...

The safe bubble has been my home for most of my life. I'm itching from a lot more than one year of isolation. Bad timing for finding myself, it seems.

Okay, first things first. The sleep schedule. Our son (my oldest, her third) is on the autism spectrum. He is almost completely non-verbal, and he has self-harming episodes - banging his head, shouting and breaking things. And it is almost impossible to keep him on a regular sleep schedule. The...

No, I'm just taking risks right now. I'm in the US, too. That's a good reminder for me to be aware of the risks I'm taking, and making sure they are wisely measured. I don't regret my impulsiveness; that night's reward was well worth the risk, in my view. Thank you, though. It would be easy for...

Hi Naomi, welcome to the discussion! I recently had the bomb dropped on me, and it was painful. It was scary. I wondered if Ms Fisher was just trying to encourage me to find an emotional safety net, so she could leave me, guilt free, if she wanted. I think the best thing she did for me (aside...

So I was waiting outside for my friend Kevin (the old friend I caught up with the other night). He was bringing me some tools I needed to replace the wiper motor on my car. It was raining on and off, and I missed a day of work for the repair. The sky was clear then, and I saw a single-prop fixed...