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So, I posted earlier in good faith. But this is rubbish. If the point of the post is to criticize AMZN (and by association big corporations) for not running services at a loss in regions disproportionately populated by minority groups: ummm, that's the point of government. Businesses produce...

I'm 39, and Australian: just across the ditch. Welcome. You sound lovely and like all of us are trying to find your own way. My question is: what do you want? And is your partner on board? I'm grasping at straws here, but it sounds like you want children and that your partner can't produce...

For what it's worth, my practice of poly is to care deeply about individual people. I've never imagined looking for a particular relationship shape. But, like all of us, I'm a novice, and there are other options.

So, I'm in Australia, same city, same age. FWIW, if you want support (noting I infrequently check PMs).

Okay, I'm going to have a stab and it's not going to be graceful. Poly is a movement of people that 1. want to feel faithful to their partners but not be limited in the scope of their love. And 2. a poly forum is a subset of these people that want to write about that. So 1. There's a...

The problem with online dating is the premise that there is the 'one' that you are the 'one' to match with. A prospector mentalite. As with every other field of human endeavour, by and large, you get out of relationships what you invest in them. A worker mentalite.

The Victor Frankl/Carl Rogers view of counselling, based on empathy and empowerment. Maybe we need a 'guidance' page before people post, to make explicit that the point is not to advise but to assist?

Lost4naught Thank you for posting here. It takes a deal of courage to post to a poly-friendly forum. The reason I reply is to provide a contrary view. Some of the responders have suggested that if poly is not for you then that's the end of the relationship. One view of the landscape is that...

Ummm... my guess is that for every honest guy like you, there's 5 maybe 50 (I'm not in the market) that have little interest in loving her. Options include no longer trying to date people that want 'The Full Disaster' wedding wise, negotiating your way through. or embracing the lower numbers...

I guess the question is: 'why have a separate space?' In the broad community, there is still an element of derogation or ostracism of LGBTIQ people. I would like to think that you don't experience that here and that you don't need to protect yourself from discriminatory views. Indeed, I think...

Arius I support your endeavours to the extent that they are about honest and open, mutually aware decisions. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with a lot of people. But, this is a polyamory site that is populated by people that want many loving relationships. I guess, my...

Opalescent: Ummm ... so, I think I'm not a Bad Person, for what that's worth. I didn't start this post in order to justify either way a particular previous set of actions. I already feel like garbage. Like many that post to a forum, I am cursed to self-reflect too much and not too little. It's...

Poly is really a lot like monogamy. It's an agreement between people about how they approach emotional, intellectual and physical intimacy. Calling the relationship 'poly' doesn't make it ok for him to hook up with someone else while you are away unless you agreed ahead of time that it was okay...

How about 'friend'?

+1. Love it.

And Fuchka. yes. appreciate your wisdom re non work outings. All the prevailing winds blow in the direction of ruling a red line on work relationships.

I'm gonna take a stab at responding. Before I do, I want to say, thank you. I adore that you have taken the time. Honourable (it's English english!) mention for Kevin and FallenAngel(ina), who were among the forces that kept me alive a decade ago. Thank you, deeply. And if you come to...

Probably the hardest thing I ever did was to come out as poly to my parents. At the time, I was in an unenviable bind between my then-mono wife and my new girlfriend. My father didn't understand, but showed he cared; my mother betrayed me by going behind my back and telling my sister about how...

My wife of 14 years and I have intimacy and commitment. My girlfriend and I of 2 years have passion and intimacy. To paraphrase Meatloaf, 2 out of 3 is pretty darn good. From a poly perspective, my question would be whether you are looking to expand in directions that are not currently...

I'm 39 years old. I have the best wife in the world ever, who is poly in concept and past practice but not active right now, and two gorgeous kids. I also have a girlfriend and I have some other great friends, all of whom I met before I was 30. My life is blessed. But I'd love to find more...