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And this is sort of why I require constant feedback to make sure I know I'm doing things right for the partner in question. I could probably brag about times where I "performed" well for unusual partners and circumstances, but I don't because that makes me feel like a shitty person and it...

I hate when people call him that. I hate the association. Cheetos are delicious and good. Then again there are so few things one can compare him to without the other thing looking better in comparison. I'm going to give you the seven words everyone wants to hear, and I mean them sincerely: You...

I think the bottom line is that good communication between partners is essential for a good time, and fucked-up and hard-dying societal misconceptions about sexuality, sex, and gender, make it harder to do that without unlearning our conditioning.

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Yet another reason why if I ever had to leave the US, NZ is where I would want to go. And Abstinence-Only Education is a MAJOR problem in the US, as is generally prudish and hypocritical attitudes towards sex as a whole. We've come a long way, but we still have a very long way to go.

This very much. Both that, for me, it's a "I want this to feel as good if not better for you than it does for me" because I love sharing good feelings, and that communication is key. I also feel like I'm always learning too, and I want to learn so I can give better and better experiences. Where...

Well, sometimes being deep-seated is the best way to get deep-seeded ;) In all seriousness, both make logical sense in the context of the phrase's meaning. Thank you for clearing it up for me.

@Magdlyn: Thank you, and I agree 100% @FallenAngelina: I agree with you too, and was not suggesting any kind of script. But because so many women still go through what Magdlyn described, I always ask for permission to try to change their minds if they've been conditioned that way. I'm just...

Oh absolutely not what I meant nor my intent to imply whatsoever. I agree anyone who feels owed or entitled to sex acts is utterly disgusting. While I do think humanity deserves a good time in a general free love "the world would be a better place if we could all enjoy each other without...

I'm glad it had a happy ending. Here's hoping subsequent episodes in the series follow suit.:D

I don't see anything wrong with trying to make someone feel good, as long as nobody takes it personally or as an indictment if other mitigating factors prevent it. If one struggles to achieve, seeking help ro make sure everything is healthy is a good idea, but one should not be made to feel...

Which is why from a very young age I found the fact that women are capable of multiple orgasms and yet often are given none to be a grave injustice of the highest order and have since strived to make my partner's pleasure the highest priority. I recognize the irony in that there have even been...

So giving oral is one of my favorite things to do. I genuinely enjoy the flavor of most women, and I feel like I'm making up for a culture that frowns upon it. That said, a lot of my partners in the past have asked me to wash my face between giving and kissing them, which while completely...

It sucks when things all of a sudden don't add up. I've been through that, and I am ashamed to admit I may have also accidentally perpetuated it a few times as while I won't lie, I may keep some details close to the chest at first. I can see one situation where you weren't lied to: if he...

You are not a bad person for seeking to escape a toxic relationship. It's what you need to do for your health. I had to give up seeing my daughter every day in order to do it, but if I had stayed it would have negatively affected us all. I'm behind you.

Okay wow. So for me... Full sex: 3 (2 were unintentional one-night stands) Physical "Fooling Around"*: 9 total (including the 3 above) Cyber/Phone Only: Too many to count *This includes any non-PiV sexual activity from agressive makeouts through mutual oral

I am an extremely physically intimate person, but kniwing how strict other people generally make their boundaries I am often paranoid about getting too close. It is hard for me to cuddle platonically, as physical intimacy breeds emotional intimacy, and for some reason I can't quite explain, I...

I must warn you, I am extremely susceptible to flattery.

This is all very good. I don't have much to add, but I wanted to jump in and reinforce the importance of communication, especially when anxiety and other mental health concerns are present. Myself and my last two partners all had mental health concerns and huge problems with communication, which...