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I wish this were not the case too. I very much would enjoy non-sexual, non-romantic, but intimate friendships. Or, at some level, these parts of a relationship not rely on the others such that some aspects of the friendship could come and go without dragging the others with it.

This is probably good news. I do not know how I would deal with someone that wanted to be with me and it would not be a good time to find out yet.

I do not do much of anything without much deliberation. As I have gotten older, I have started letting things be as they are. I have very little contol over a lot of things, and I do not really want to controll other people, and I do not want to be controlled. I have always been a pretty...

I honestly don't know what my attitude toward sex and romance is. I'm sure I don't need more relationdhips, but there is a desire. I am not certain that my thoughts and desires can be tossed like a physical object. It is not like I saw them on the ground and picked them up. They are just...

I do not know for sure how receptive she might be. She has opened up alot, sexually in recent years, at least talking about what she feels. Stuff that would never have come out in any situation is a fairly common topic now. I am going to ask her to listen to or read some of these books...

I get the feeling this lady has lots of friends. I am not really on her radar. I hate it. I do like talking to her, I want friends that care about me and want to know about me. Our conversations were always my input into her decisions. Rarely would she ask anything about me. I guess it...

I don't want us to not be happy together anymore. I don't want to be bringing that content up on a regular basis. I know she will feel insecure, and I hate that.

Its a process. I really would rather her bring it up. Probably does not cross her mind as much.

This is sound advice. It did not occur at work. I guess I had not even thought about it. I guarantee that would have been my first thought if I were observing from the outside.

I talked to my wife. She seems okay with the conversation I had. I did not feel like this girl was coming on to me or has feelings for me. I am just not sure I would pick up on those cues if they were presented to me.

Thanks It was an adult conversation, but it was not pornagraphic in nature. I felt like she wanted my perspective on why the guy was acting the he was. She said as much. "Orgasm" or lack of, or finishing too soon could have been mechanisms.

I'm listening to another book now, sex before dawn. I am still trying to make sure what I feel is not abberrant. I am not sure how to broach the conversation yesterday. It just came out of nowhere. I mean, I was chatting with her one day about finances, and she would not tell me her...

We have talked and she said her opinion on it has changed from the past. She can see both sides is what she says. I do not know if she feels that to share means that some thing will be subtracted from us or not. The first time we really talked about it was at the beginning of the year and it...

I guess I wanted to know how to navigate the friendship. If she does want more, I would like to know so I can make more educated decisions on how we talk. My wife takes priority here. Like I said, I just don't know. Was the conversation such that I need to more closely regulate my...

I have been with one person my whole life, since middle school (in my thirties now). No game playing through my teens, twenties... How do you know when a girl is into you? There is a co-worker that I have chatted with at work, i.e. on the work computer, for several months, mostly about her...

I still do not know if the wife would go for any of it. She has expressed what I interpret as jealousy over my female friends in the past. She has been the initiator of our most recent conversations about opening up. She has expressed concern over developing feelings for other people, but that...

I'm pretty happy with my wife and mono status. I'm sure holding out longer would not be that big of a deal. Maybe. ..

I have always been on the emotional side. I "feel" a lot. I care a lot about people. I do not connect well with most guys. I do not seem to fit that stereotypical mold. The most memorable friendships I have had, even as limited as they were, were with females. I like to think they thought...

KC43, thanks. Did your husband find that it was difficult for guys to find ladies, like the ratios might be off a little in favor of girls? I am not sure if I want to step in that direction if there is going to be an immense amount of rejection or disinterest. I feel like my social...

So cooped up. I hesitated so much before posting on here. Glad I did. I look forward to learning and sharing. Maybe we will make it to this lifestyle sometime in the future. We have been strictly mono our whole marriage. I have had friends that I have gotten close to and think that I really...