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My husband and I have been together for 17 years. The NRE wore off a few months into the relationship, the attraction never has. I still find my husband attractive after all these years. During the NRE phased all it took was a smile, a touch, a kiss and that was it. Sex was initiated. As that...

I am very much an introvert, as is my husband/partner. Being alone recharges us. Being in a group, both of us can extend ourselves and socialize but at the end, its an energy drain. For us, we meet people through activities. Like gaming and going to cons. Its not easy meeting compatible people...

Mal, reading your post I got a sense of discomfort. Not being at ease. I know a few couples who had the "only sex" arrangement which eventually led to a similar situation. I hate to write this but, you don't sound poly. You sound like a monogamous person who is attempting to be poly in order...

Is it lust or is it love? To me, NRE is lust. Its hormones and obsession mixed with craving. Its intense and lots of sex. Can't get enough of each other. You overlook faults and see only the good. To me, Love is more. Its the person knowing you. At your core. There is a fabulous TED Talk...

Love comes in many forms. NRE, to me, typically describes infatuation, and passion. Hormones are surging and the reaction is more addiction based inherent to obession. Craving happens. As humans we enjoy novelty. But as the novelty wears off and the hormones reach a equilibrium, the infatuation...

Your welcome. From what you've posted, she wasn't aware of your needs. This is something that can be communicated going forward. Also, her feelings are hers. You can support her, you can provide information and communicate but ultimately, she works through them. That's all hers. It may take time...

When emotions are running high, communication skills can be left behind. It happens. What matters is how you come back from it. For me, I can empathize with your wife. For her to live in a poly world is one thing, its another when you realize your partner wants it too. New feelings and...

I have a crush on a guy but I know his marriage wouldn't allow for any type of arrangement or dating. Good luck! I hope it works out for each of you. P.

The aspect that I disagree with is the husband seeming to call what he has done "poly." When it appears more to be in line with an emotional affair and now bordering on cheating. He kept this aspect of himself hidden, for his own reasons. What he has done is broken trust. He didn't tell his...

Hello, Just a few questions: Do you want and/or does he want to leave his wife? What does he see you as? Friend? Side-chick? Someone I know? From what you've described you are participating in an open marriage. The wife knows and allows it but doesn't sound like she's accepting it. The...

Hello Ginger, Loved your introduction. I can empathize with exactly what you wrote. My husband I went through the whole "Wait, I can have feelings/love another person and it not be bad for our relationship?" It was scary, difficult but rewarding and liberating. Welcome! Hope to hear more...

I read the last message and, WOW. He's 25, long hair, athletic. Rawr. You go girl! I am excited for you. He sounds yummy. Keep us apprised! P.

From those words, I think he cares more for himself and what he wants. That means, there's no room for you or maybe anyone for him to care about as much as he cares about himself. What he wrote shows a selfish world view. That's not poly. That's hooking up for a hook up and disregarding the...

agentb2016, From my perspective, it looks like you are trying to find that last thread to hold on too. That last little bit of something that says, I mean something to him. I am important to him. We can't give you that. Just like we can't make you decide to leave him. It's your decision. And...

Wow. Something happened and fast. I wonder what? Hope everything is okay on both sides.

Yes, and it is scary as all get out. Yes, you both can be in love with the same person. Yes, you both can still love each other. Yes, its all okay and totally within both of your psychological functioning. No, its not crazy, insane, wrong or anything else. What does opening your relationship...

From what the OP is describing, it's not poly sadly. Speaking from experience, if she, the wife, wants to leave. Allow her too. You can't dissuade her. She may try to keep you around but you have to ask yourself if you can live in second place. To me, poly isn't about being in second or...

I am an avid RPG gamer. Love Bioware and Bethesda. Favorite authors are Butcher, Rothfuss, Herne, Herbert, Heinlein, Asimov, and a smattering of a lot of others. I am also a big Whovian. Love me some Doctor Who. Thats what I try to people to watch. Have you seen Doctor Who? Also, Sherlock...

Having been going through a recent break up, I've learned many lessons. The relationship was nearly 5 years. We were a vee, MFM. We were moving on toward a future together, or so that was the plan. It fell apart in about 6 months. Our former said very terrible things and we ended in a very bad...

The AGNI? I like this. My score is below. All completely subjective but the scores feels about right. Especially the geeky/nerdy rating. Awkwardness 8 Geekiness 9 Nerdiness 9 Intelligence 8 ______________________ Total...