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Listen, we all have to do what we feel is best in our lives. I don't know what your kids do and don't know. All I was saying is that kids often do not tell their parents everything, and they are pretty perceptive about people's feelings without the parents uttering one word. I know I was. That...

Exactly. It's one thing if that isn't what they are doing, but in my situation, that is exactly what it was. It was a woman in a monogamous marriage whose wife had been forced out of her job of 30 years and was feeling despondent about that, and the FWB was taking care of her. The wife was much...

That's how I felt. Like I was being used as a band aid on problems in a relationship that I had nothing to do with. And there were some seriously deep issues in this marriage, and I know that if the situation hadn't ended - admittedly for reasons other than the situation, but still, I had been...

This is a good point. Though personally "tolerating" life would not be something I'd be up for. I'm glad you're happy most of the time. :)

ALL OF THIS, so much. To this day, I still bear the effects of the bullshit that went on in my parents' marriage. The only thing that saved my father from himself was a stroke. My mother's entire life has been doing things out of obligation, usually to disastrous results, and yet she continues...

They might have their reasons, but that doesn't make it a smart thing to do. It isn't, period. I know it doesn't feel good, but I call it like I see it. I'm sorry you wasted so much of your life on a relationship that you were unhappy in, and that you felt that it was the only option. I can't...

Yeah, IMO swinging is not poly, and kink/BDSM has little (read: NOTHING) to do with being inherently polyamorous. Thanks for the intervene, and no apology needed. I just don't think that opening marriages to save them is a good thing. It's as stupid and unhealthy as "staying together for the...

I quoted this whole post because it is awesome. I hate the idea of writing people off or judging them, which is why I brought this up after all this time. I like the description re: grieving. That's perfect. That's what it is in the end - they cannot accept that this is a relationship that no...

Oh, I didn't mean to imply that casual sex isn't okay! It's totes welcome, I have 4 casual gf's right now, and those relationships are mostly sex. Nothing serious at all. This just kind of made me rethink a lot of things, and I was looking for opinions. Thanks! :)

That is really helpful insight, thank you. I was up late thinking about this, because I realized that in the last couple of years, I had let that terrible experience make me reject a lot of people, and was wondering if I was being rigid and rash. This particular situation was just a seriously...

Sounds to me like you need to express your needs and expectations, especially since you have paid so much money for the resort. It's really quite inconsiderate of her to do this. I get that grandkids will always come first, but this is very inconsiderate. I do not consider babysitting so her...

So, as I posted in a thread here awhile ago, a couple of summers ago I got involved with a woman in a monogamous marriage whose marriage was only open due to sexual incompatibility. I later learned that, as is the usual case in these scenarios, that there were a lot of underlying issues in the...

For one thing, they aren't married. He says that in the OP, that they never got married. Maybe this is just me, but the crux of relationships is that while no one goes into them thinking they will end, I think we all know that most of them do at some point or another. Therefore, the responsible...

It is my opinion... That this is a deal breaker. Monogamous people will never be happy in polyamorous relationships, and polyamorous people will never be happy in monogamous relationships. Also, is it 4 years or 14 years? (confused about the time frame here, which could be important). Also...

I am sorry you are going through this. The key, I've learned, is digging a bit deeper. See how much experience people have, test them, etc. The thing is, people WILL lie about this, just like anything else. You have to feel them out. There are plenty of people who enter this community for...

It sounds to me like this is an issue of basic lack of compatibility. You have to decide whether or not this is a dealbreaker for one or both of you. It sounds like it might be. If you continue along this path, it will only lead to a resentful, unhappy relationship.

It sounds to me like you are monogamous by nature and ill - suited to open relationships. No, I don't ask myself any of those questions when I am involved with people, because I am poly. I find monogamy smothers me. I think that if you continue to have these feelings, she isn't the girl for...

I'm bored with the lifestyle question, too, and honestly just wish the idea would be squashed. It HAS been squashed with regards to being LGBTQ, except in Religious Right circles who sincerely believe that being queer is a sin. However, those beliefs have been linked to countless suicides, so...

Thanks, Magdlyn. I am hoping that this sort of thing isn't allowed here anymore. It truly is a harmful path to go down.

All I Can Say IS... That I thought this was an LGBTQ - friendly site. I See it is not. It allows for conspiracy theories about being gay being some kind of "choice" that can be "cured" to be circulated unchallenged, despite the fact that every major health organization in the world says that...