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That is such a refreshing take! If you read my latest blog, then you'll know that I agree with your statement about oneness, and I can see how that feeling can be safe and healthy, when channeled properly. I'm not afraid of my feelings anymore, but I guess I am still wary of them. I don't want...

I'm new to all this vocabulary, too. I'm honestly surprised that people don't think of it as a lifestyle. I know that sometime semantics dictate that you just settle on a meaning for the sake of clear conversation, but for me, it absolutely has been a change in the way I live my entire life! I...

That's interesting! How wild is it that everything is on a spectrum like that? I'm not sure how I feel about overt ownership nuance; I might just be gun shy from being a monogamy trap for so long. I didn't mispeak; I was the trap. At least I'm in a place of clarity, for now. I'm making the best...

It's amazing how quickly time flies by when one is enjoying one's self! Einstein was right! I'm feeling terribly charming and amorous lately. I think I might have spooked Jen. 😁 I came on pretty strong, and she let me down easy. The attraction was there for me, and we connected on some nerdy...

I'd love to just jump in and start offering advice, but I don't know enough about your situation yet. That's okay, though! What's important is that you're addressing your feelings, and trying to understand where they're coming from. It's all to easy to say "this person made me feel this way,"...

I think it's just that people here are used to seeing folks ramble. There's a lot to unpack when trying to live your life a new way, and the posts are usually a lot longer. No judgement from me! I'm sorry you felt accused; I don't think that anyone meant it that way. It's hard to sense...

I think you're being asked what brought you to this site. Your questions seem a little ... scattershot. What is it about your life that made you come here for answers? This is a great community, and if you're here to learn more about polyamory, you're in the right place! Just know that the mods...

Welcome to the forum! I've only been here about a week, but I'm already feeling like a part of the community here. Everyone is really supportive, and I feel accepted in my choice to start a new way to live! Im into sharing my good vibes right now, so if you just want to talk to someone...

I think I want to properly introduce myself to anyone keeping up with my blog. Yes, I see the introductions board, stop pointing! I did that one as an intro to my situation, and I think that's fine there. If you're reading my blog, either you're just bored, or you're curious about me. This might...

Today I am starting think that I might not post in my blog every day. My relationships with people are starting to heal, and I'm feeling less desperate to decry my rapidly evolving state of mind. I'll still try to keep up with it. I think it will be useful for me to able to review my progress...

My boiling euphoria has finally settled to a simmer,, and I can see now that it was shielding me from fully experiencing all these difficult emotions. That spooked me for a minute. It was kind of like Dumbo dropping his magic feather. I felt exposed, and mistaken. I felt the weight of the effort...

That does sound pretty similar. I have the good fortune that my wife was poly before we met, so she's a great guide to help me navigate these waters. She also wants to make sure that I make some connections before she starts being more intimate with hers. It will feel less wierd for me once I...

Things are getting better. And better and better! I didn't realize how bad it had gotten. I wasn't just stuck in a mindset that limited my personal growth, I was depressed! I've let my personal care and hygiene slip. I've put all of my passions on indefinite hold, cut myself off from friends and...

It certainly felt like betrayal in the moment. I had to dig deep to apply my rational thinking to such a jarring revelation. I fully expect more anguish in my future, but I'm worth it! As a side note, I did talk to her about calling her my wife on the message boards. We're not technically...

I can tell you for a fact that you're right. She has had a few crushes since we got together, and felt the need to push them down, or even abandon the friendship, for me. She told me so straight away once we started discussing poly. That makes me feel so guilty, and so loved at the same time!

I joined this community just a few days ago, looking for a place to learn about polyamory. I wanted to connect with people who embrace this lifestyle. I wanted a place to feel socially accepted in my choice to try it for myself. I was scared - I felt like I was risking loosing something...

Three days ago, I was a codependent, possessive, monogamist. Today I know these things about myself. I didn't realize how strong my conditioning was. It seems that using religion and mass media to manipulate people's worldview from cradle to grave is an effective way to control them. I just...

Oh wow. Just read the article. I just learned a lot about codependency, and I felt nailed to the wall! I didn't realize how codependent I've been. I just ugly cried for a minute! My wife met me when I was single! That's the ME she fell in love with! Why did I let myself fade away? Thank you so...

Thank you icesong! It really does help to hear you say that you still deal with those feelings sometimes. I have a full on brew of toxic conditioning that I'm dealing with right now, not just guilt. My ideas about love and affection are infected with things like possessiveness and jealousy...

Thanks for the suggestions! And don't worry, I've been talking with my wife about this constantly since it came up. Our conversations are going great, and we're not holding anything back! I'm here to find other poly practitioners to talk to, mostly. It still feels like I'm contemplating doing...