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Given all the to-and-fro that happened here, I would really like to hear an update on what has gone on recently in your world. We identified some things as potentially problematic for you - it would be good to get a little "calibration" on what has and hasn't worked out for you so far.

Well, the vast majority of poly folks that I know in person are definitely "economically disenfranchised" and most have kids, so my own experiences don't mirror the author's at all. I definitely consider myself fortunate to be able to have the relationships that I do. Part of it was...

I definitely sympathise. I have had a few cases like this on fora that I've been trying to moderate and it's hard to keep all the mods happy, let alone all the members. Sometimes you really do have to take a step back from it all.

LR, you asked for my comments on this, so before I log off and take a break from this place for while in order to not rip certain people's heads off, I will answer. Smack talk about anyone behind their back is problematic, and all too common in today's society. If someone has something to say...

And I have realised that this place is becoming a source of negative energy due to a few folk's effectiveness at combining ignorance and arrogance into one huge ugly package, so I think I need to be gone for a while before I start screaming.

I hope that you see now how it was a quite serious question that was raising a point how we, on this board, think about polyamory, especially the types that differ from the norm. And I hope you noticed the smiley after my statement that you quoted... It didn't surprise me that folks didn't...

I am getting to that point in a certain thread right now - since it has the danger of spilling into other threads, I will probably need to take a big step back for a while, until the tone changes to one that I can contribute to more effectively.

I am curious as to what you see as the distinction. My understanding is that polygamy is marrying more than one, a "plural marriage". This include polygyny (one man, many women married to that man) and polyandry (one woman, many men married to the woman). Polyamory is loving more than one...

Oh FFS, don't be lazy and do your own research to work out whether this is legit or not. I did.

In response to my request for more respectful conversation (to quit fighting and talk about the issues): In response to my request to be more accepting of all different types of polyamory, not just those with which we agree: These are both things that are laid out under the user guidelines...

Life has been kind of nuts for me since the early spring. Work has been completely insane - huge changes that involve vast amounts of work by everyone - vacation ban, weekend working (and I get no overtime, since I'm staff). Not being able to have a vacation doesn't make it easy. I have...

This is great. I have been guilty into falling into that anger place a few times, and I really have to stop before hitting the button that posts and think about whether what I am saying is really furthering the conversation or just the outpouring of my own stuff. Sometimes I do it better than...

Welcome. Yes poly is very large in topic, but as long as you know what you want and what you don't, it's not too bad. Glad to hear that you are making it work for you - there are always bumps in the road that need to be negotiated - I don't think poly is different from a monogamous...

I think it's one of those "there's an appropriate time and place" things. If I am in a deep conversation, with lots of eye contact, then being distracted by some attractive person walking by would be highly disrespectful. Both of my partners and I have turned it into a game - kind of like...

Thanks to most of you for your constructive input - looks like we are on the same page with this.

Growing up and living in high levels of privilege is often very isolating. The people around you are disconnected from what most folks think of as "normal life". The rules are very different - how you talk, what you do, even the rules of relationships and "decent behaviour". A lot of...

Nice to see your normal level of snide hostility, BoringGuy! :rolleyes: Since nobody else has really posted anything serious on this topic, let me give you my opinion, for what it's worth... I have witnessed during polyamory discussions a strong desire to distinguish polyamory from the...

Any chance we could quit the fighting and talk about the issues? BoringGuy I find that you are being extremely confrontational, and I would appreciate it if you either contributed to discussing the issues at hand or stay away from the thread, if it triggers you so badly. This forum IS about...

If you had the ocean around you to select from, then yes, but you are on a small island, with a local native population who know each other probably quite well. Word will spread. I think that the actual number of candidates (as I stated earlier) is actually going to be very small. If you...

I think that's why it's vital to talk about it before the foreplay starts, and make sure everyone understand the "rules of combat" before you dive in. That way it's easier for folks to keep those hard limits in the backs of their minds and make sure that they don't go there. Last thing you...