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The fact that you are struggling means that it obviously *does* matter to you, and that shouldn't be just brushed aside. Do you feel that it needs to remain a secret for good, practical reasons? Or do you feel that it's pretty arbitrary? One of the annoyances for me about polyamory is that it...

Holy Rainbow Text, Batman! :D

Coming in late to the discussion, and some of what I am going to say has already been said, but I feel that it bears repeating, maybe using different words. In random order: I don't think that anyone here is saying that it is a crime, just that it is morally wrong. Since polyamory is also...

user: corence. Last Activity: 12-23-2009 07:37 AM I wouldn't hold your breath waiting for an answer to this one. ;) I have found that many guys are bisexual but so afraid to say so, they don't walk around with male bisexual stamped on their head, but on the other hand they would probably...

You know what, as long as you know what you do and don't like, and as long as folks don't assume that their definition of a word is the same as anyone elses, who cares what you call it?

Sounds it to me, yes. But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. because different people have different things they want in their lives - some like the thrill of the ever-changing chaos, others like far more stability and most are somewhere in the middle. Weird as in that you are an individual...

If it's any consolation, I would suggest that you didn't fall in love with him, you fell in love with the person you thought he was. He turned out to be a long way from that, and you are dealing with that change in perception of him. Don't beat yourself up that he did a great sell-job on you -...

Youch! That's hot! :D:D:D

I saw this thread a while back and have been letting it sit, trying to work out how best to formulate my feelings on this. The main issue that I am struggling with is the folks that call themselves "BBW" - I will agree with the first and the last, but unfortunately I do not find them all...

Hi there and welcome to the forum. That's a good introduction - folks are free to post as little or much as they want - with folks folks we get their whole life story! :) So what aspects are missing for you that you feel you might find in a poly relationship? maybe if you tell us more about...

Hello MissKate. Welcome to the forum. What "a little more" are you looking for? Does your husband know of this?

Welcome Londonguy! Welcome to the forum. I hope that you find this is useful resource as you try to sort out your thoughts. While not into BDSM myself, I have a few friends who are solidly into it, and the bond that kink develops between folks is quite unique - for some it's purely about the...

You'd be surprised how many poly folks there are in rural areas. You don't say which country or part of the country you are in, but if you can travel, there may just be poly groups close by that you could join and get to know a few people. Try also the free dating site OKCupid - make sure you...

YOUCH! Love it!

Well, put me down as another person with a primary who doesn't have arbitrary VETO power. At any time in the relationship we can all talk, if they have concerns. I trust their judgment, and will make decisions based on that, and the fact that sometime NRE can make me a bit blind to the...

Turning a relationship from mono to poly cannot be done at the flick of a switch. It takes time and work. Hopefully if you are willing to put some sort of plan in place that you can both agree to in order to work towards poly, then hopefully she will be content. What she may be feeling is...

Even if it took a little "liquid courage" well done. I really feel that you did the right thing. I am curious as to whether he bothers to contact you and try to talk things through with you. You said before that he was a good salesman, so be prepared for him to try the sales job on you again.

Welcome to the forum! Hope you find the postings useful for you. Have you talked with your spouse about this at all?

Welcome to the forum. My only advice at this stage, other than the learning that you are trying to do, is not to let this go too far in your mind before you talk to your wife. If your wife says that this is a "no way!" then you can stop spending the time doing the research. Also, the more...

Well, this thread has been well and truly hijacked, hm? :) In some ways I understand what mercury says - the idea of folks that only want sex masquerading (and selling themselves) as poly and expecting everyone to go along with it is pretty annoying. Or those that are quite happy to lie and...