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I'd imagine that if a person is used to the Tinder universe, this is exactly the mindset. Doesn't messaging on Tinder imply that both people are down for meeting up that very day? This assumption may now extend to all dating apps, unless you're on Silver Singles. ;)

IME, this is not a small issue. If one partner feels dragged along to functions, there's something deeply significant going on in this relationship. The questions about independence vs. duty have not been settled in this relationship. There are hurts, expectations and resentments that are not...

Of course people can be better. There are many ways to change and improve how we show up in relationships. We're never dependent on what other people are doing, and nobody is a slave to their past. Being set in one's ways is a myth. Being too old or too young or too broken-- all myths. People...

I can appreciate the equally lame position that men are in when it comes to dating protocol.

Only Emma can work on this. You can't love her enough, or be understanding enough to help her. Really. Emma has to want to work on this and change herself if anything is to change here. You can't be supportive or understand enough to do it. This goes waaaaaay beyond one night getting out of hand...

What would you say to a woman who said this to you about her male boss? Would you encourage her to do everything she could to "save the relationship," because they had so many mutual friends, and because she loved him? Would you encourage her to not only work on the relationship, but expand...

Perhaps English is not your first language, but "there should be no jealousy" is a judgement about feelings, not really a helpful guide regarding polyamory. People in poly relationships are not superhuman, they are human. People in poly relationships are not above any feeling, and certainly...

Everywhere!!! I know that poly women have an additional challenge since lots of people don't understand the concept, but women in general are barraged by men looking for sex any which way. To me, this is just part of the female experience - especially when we put ourselves out into dating...

I grew up in California and we've been saying dude that way for decades. I dunno how hip it is, but it is used for and by everyone. It's much like "Hey, man." Maybe it sounds odd to an east coast ear, but It is what it is.

Do you mean that you'd spend a romantic summer together, then break up in September?

And yes, this is the female "I'll call you."

Why limit yourself to random people you meet? Get thee to Fetlife. That community enjoys not only a spectrum, but a full on kaleidoscope of latex preferences and practices. IMO, Sweden and Eastern Europe are especially well represented in this arena.

I'm still wondering how old you are and how much romantic relationship experience you've had.

Paul Sunderland gives excellent talks on the adoption experience.

Are you offering feedback from your life experience in several long term, serious romances or from only having read relationship manuals?

This is from her information page. I'm not sure where it says that the study targets a narrow segment only. Maybe I missed it? "I am conducting this research study to examine the interpersonal and intrapersonal experiences of individuals engaged in consensually non-monogamous...

If you're going to study polyamory, a basic piece of information is that this is just one of MANY ways to be polyamorous. It's like saying that you're studying the US and then, oops, this survey is for white people only. I really encourage you to begin again, learn more about polyamory and...

Not to be an old lady or ascribe any magic to it, but why have you not proposed to her? I'm not saying that you should, but it's atypical to have children, be best friends, aspire to a forever life and not get married. I'm not suggesting marriage as any solution, but just wondering what the...

You regularly mention the idea of biologically natural polyamory and nobody blinks an eye. Nobody is afraid. Why do you think that your research and reports have gone largely unchallenged for years here while Isaiah is getting all this blow back?

I think that along with the threat of loss of life$tyle, fear of the unknown drives an awful lot of people to hang onto misery. After so many years of emotional drudgery, many people keep hanging on because the fear of all the pieces of an unimaginable and different life is overwhelming. What...