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Well, friend-o, in non-monogamous relationships, the likelihood of finding matches in a landscape that is given over to free love and self-expression, finding folks who aren't interested in more garden variety sexualities is becoming increasingly difficult. The number of dating app profiles I've...

Woof. Good luck

Super fair. A lot of where the rubber meets the road is the agreed upon-terms of the veto. I made some assumptions regarding how robust those rules were, but you’re right; it’s not fair to vilify someone for using their agreed-upon rights.

Yeah, I’m confused by the rationale behind a veto with no qualifying reason for it. It sounds like he was feeling threatened, which is not a good enough reason for full veto powers. Icky. If he’s gonna insist on playing by dumb rules, threaten to veto his other relationship, unless you are also...

Unlike Socrates, but maybe I just need to get on your level in order to understand this homage. Good luck with your math, Mr. of Love

I’ve been doing my best to build community in the real world, but the apps allow us to keep talking even when we’re sitting on the couch at midnight, and that’s pretty cool too. But yeah, they’re also huge trash fires a lot of the time. More than one thing can be true at once.

Aw yeh, gimme that sweet second-hand compersion. Love seeing the ways different people struggle with things. My demons have settled quite happily into “and how are we going to f*ck this one up?” My brand of feral transparency has done wonders removing questions like “do they like me” and really...

@Sharona1881 is an avid pen pal. Idk if I could see myself diving that deeply, (although I have been known to write long form letters with pen and ink on parchment sealed with a personal wax emblem *eyeroll*) I do regularly find myself considering writing an old friend a long email.

I’m not sure it’s the polyamory part that’s the problem with the apps: Feeld is the only one I’ve found that caters to people who are specifically looking for nonmonog relationships, but hookup culture is awfully prevalent in all of them in my experience. Most apps = hook up or monogamy Poly...

Well, I’m relieved. Sounds like you’ll be fine. Happy to have you around and looking forward to those updates!

That didnt answer my question! I am a forever DM and kind of specialize in new players. My girlfriend (who is also brand new) will be playing a fairy Druid in our new campaign and her husband has rolled up a dwarf monk. I think I am an IRL bard, although I pass pretty easily as a wizard or warlock

First of all, I'm so proud of you. You guys are doing a big scary thing and being very mature about it. Second, please don't feel pressured to feel any specific way about this third person; my girlfriend's husband and I are good friends, but this was a pleasant surprise, not an expectation...

THERE'RE MORE OF US. Check this out, but also, tell us more! https://polyamory.com/threads/poly-picnic-2025.158811/

This makes you better than most. You deserve better than most.

Don't settle for unclear answers on this: your partner should be able to define what is available to you and if they cannot, that is not your problem. It's not unreasonable to expect clear answers and "speaking openly" isn't the same as getting answers. This is unhealthy. This is not ENM or...

I had typed out my own version of this before Magdlyn beat me to all of it. You're getting shafted and I can't see what context I could be missing that would make it any less true.

I'd be careful approaching any relationship with such rigid expectations: those are usually the sources of most frustration when reality arrives differing drastically. If you'll only accept a harmonious, perfectly balanced triad without any wiggle room for other relationship structures, I can't...

I'm sorta with Magdlyn on this in that it seems far too close to looking for forgiveness than permission, for my comfort. I don't see such explanations of carelessness jiving with the desire to avoid a pregnancy in the first place. That said, I don't see anything inherently wrong with you being...

What a threatening greeting. I feel like a spider just moved in and set up shop. I, for one, am in support of our new arachnid overlord.

Well, you said the magic words and summoned me. What are your species/classes?