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Some updates. DAG and Polo have officially ended their relationship. Polo got jealous one too many times and DAG said 'no more'. Our relationship with Onyx has grown. We still have separate relationships, with DAG and Onyx's pairing getting more involved. My relationship with Onyx is not...

Arc, this is TRUTH! I want to emphasize what DH said with something else I found which hit close to home. Sexual satisfaction (and other activities) are the sole responsibility of the individual. No one else is responsible for your sexual happiness but you and you aren't responsible for...

Arc, We do not sleep in separate bedrooms, but sex with DAG has been very, very limited. I stay on my side of the bed, and he stays on his. Right now, our financial situation is rather entwined, so in my opinion, it's easier to stay emotionally separated, but physically together than not. I...

Arc, From entry # 4 above, it sounds like you might have some insecurities, or singular insecurity. I can relate really well. My nesting partner got into a romantic/sexual relationship with a guy at the beginning of his poly exploration. The other guy is good looking, very smart and was able...

I think I've figured out another aspect of my relationship with DAG. I am 14 years older than he. I've done a lot in life, with a few regrets, but nothing glaring. I've been able to explore my sexuality, as well as scratch the travel around-the-world itch. I am about 10 years away from...

I came to a realization the other day about my wants in my relationship with DAG. It's been slow in coming, but in this case, better late than never. I am 57 years old and have experienced quite a bit in my life. I have a few regrets, but on the whole, satisfied on what I've done and...

icesong and PinkPig. I am making an assumption about what DAG does when initially meeting people online. I was projecting on him what I would normally do when online. Not a good approach :) DAG gets really excited when he meets someone online who seems to be an initial match, so he probably...

Two new things. DAG had a falling out with Polo, as Polo was being his usual 'do as I say, not as I do' self with DAG. DAG was having none of it, and blocked Polo's texts and phone calls (but not FB messenger for some reason). A few days later, they literally kissed and had make-up sex. All...

The visit with Teach was awesome. A great guy, who is easy to speak with, thereby easy to get to know. We welcomed him with open arms. A few days before his visit, he and Banker broke up, so he was not in good spirits when he arrived. DAG and I welcomed him with open arms. He brought his...

Teach is coming today to visit us for a week. I am excited about that. While DAG and Teach are more connected to each other than I am with Teach, I still look forward to meeting him. He and I had some really good telephone conversations and texts. An amazing man, and I want to know more...

TinCup: DAG communication concern is that he wants to be heard. My communication concern is that I want to be understood. His stems from his childhood, growing up with 9 cousins (they all lived very close to each other), so he had to compete to be heard. Mine stems from not being able to...

He does not like it when I tell him I'll get back to him on answers. I think it's because I can't give him a time frame on when to expect answers (it's not like I can process feelings on deadline). He says he feels abandoned and confused if I don't answer him right away, which is dead on...

O.M.G. That is how we process in a nutshell. DAG = Spewer Ostrich = Chewer. And I really like those three on the Multiarmory site. I watched their video about men and how they relate to their male metamours. That interview was very helpful to me. I've seen their vids which relate to my...

More soul searching and work to be done. In the past, I have been very passive aggressive with DAG. I'll say I'm fine with a situation which has developed between DAG and me, only to realize I am not really fine with it, and then I act out on that 'not fine' feeling. I've done it several...

Things with Teach and Banker have been going very well. We text each other individually, as well as group text, and video chat with all four of us. I am in a much better place emotionally. I feel more connected to these two, as they seem more open with getting to know me better than Bruiser...

KittyKate82, From reading your posts, it sounds like you are on the right path to healing. You have a therapist. Good! Do you feel comfortable with that therapist? You have a set of friends. Are they open to hearing about you practicing a poly lifestyle, and issues associated with that...

So Polo wants to spend the night tonight with DAG, at our place. I mentioned Polo briefly in a couple of posts in this blog. While I like Polo, he has a 'do as I say, not as I do' attitude. While he can be on his phone at anytime and any place, talking to whomever, if DAG starts texting or...

It's been a couple of weeks since I've posted on this, but there has been another huge development in our lives, so here goes. There is a guy, who I will call 'Teach', whom DAG and I have been following on social media. The guy is prolific, and seems to be involved in everything to do with...

Mags, I have some really good friends to unload on. I know two people in a triad who give really good advice (not relationship advice, but personal advice) about poly and two friends who are not poly, but have an understanding of it. All are very supportive, and are willing to listen. You...

Mags: A couple of anecdotes. First, I informed DAG I didn't want to go to any functions Bruiser and Fisticuffs sponsored. DAG then said: 'If you keep turning down invites, they won't invite you in the future, and then I'll have to explain to other friends who are there, on your whereabouts'...