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I am not out at work for many reasons. But I have never dated a coworker and I doubt I ever will. Too much possibility of things going very badly, if things go badly. Way too much risk for me. So I personally don’t recommend dating coworkers. I do suggest thinking a lot about risks. Decide...

Many experts have argued that sex addiction is not an addiction like alcohol or drug addiction. Can compulsive sex seeking be a problem and cause disruptions in life? Yes absolutely but that does not make it an addiction. David R. Ley, Ph.D, wrote a book about it...

I keep reading this as I LICK. Maybe that's the point? I love Star Trek's concept of IDIC. It was a big deal to me to encounter it in the show and the books back then.

Congratulations! I hope the ceremony is amazing and your married life afterwards is too.

Do you want to be a parent? Seven months in seems really early for anyone in a newish relationship to want to take that major leap. Is being around the child more the main point of moving in? Are there advantages for your relationship with your partner? If you do really want to be a parent...

Lul is correct. Yes there was some impact of the American Revolution on the French Revolution. However the French Revolution was primarily shaped by French experience and history and not so much outside influences. For example, it was a real Revolution in ways the American one never was. The US...

Move on It just really reads like she is not in a good place to be in a relationship right now. Maybe that will change in 6 months, maybe not. Dan Savage suggests one has to be in 'good enough working order' to be in a relationship. Your girlfriends seems to be aware that she is struggling and...

No worries! It would have taken some effort to do. I’m sure Snowbunny will think of something useful.

Oh good! I’m glad you found it a helpful idea.

Maybe put a cat door in your door? They are meant to be used to go outside but I see no reason one couldn’t be used on an interior door.

Thought I'd do an update. Things are going well with Midwest. I see him about once a month for a date and then there is often non-sexual hangout time with him, often with Chicago and little one too. I think I'm going to ask Midwest if we can email more often. I know he can't give more time but...

Tell him the depth of your feelings for M and how his (A) behavior is causing you to leave him. Tell him sooner rather than later. Waiting to tell him, or not telling him, is a losing game. It will be painful to tell him but way more painful not to. Also, on some level, A already knows how in...

Bembem, I think you are on your way to sorting things out. I hope that goes well. I did want to ask why feelings generate insecurity and fear in you? Is it fear of stress that can harm your health? Fear you will 'lose' your boyfriend? Other things? Nailing done the fear behind the...

Have you told your husband explicitly what you said here? If not, do so immediately. He may not truly get the impact his actions are having on you, leading you towards divorce. Has he told you why he is so upset and behaving poorly over this? There is a reason, probably several. If he can...

You all don’t have thunderstorms? Why not? Watching thunderstorms is one of my favorite things.

I've got a few thoughts. Hopefully some will be useful to you. First, it's totally ok to be repulsed and disturbed by other's kinks. There are so many things in kink land I do not understand at all, and many I just find incredibly disturbing. One way I deal with this is that I don't look at...

Witchy stuff I've been taking classes from a local Reclaiming group in my city. Reclaiming is a Wiccan tradition founded in the late 1970s. Starhawk is probably the most well known of the founders/members of Reclaiming. Reclaiming It's a very feminist, anarchist, environmentally focused...

Update 2019 is finally looking better. It had a terrible start between a friend's heart attack (she is recovering well, thank goddess), Glow's sudden death, and the mind blowing stupidity and cruelty of Trump. I've been taking some witch classes recently and really enjoying them. I am not as...

Primary-ness I don't think of being in a primary relationship as necessarily being entwined in various ways. It means that to a lot of people but it does not work for me. I think of it as more the person (or persons) that I arrange my life around, and they do the same around me. I visualize...

Send a link to the pod If it bothers you, I suggest sending a thread link to the pod and asking them to include it on the document. I’d be surprised it wasn’t added. Polyamory.com, sadly, is not a particularly well known or popular corner of the internet, as compared to reddit, let’s say.